Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Its winged seed dropped down from Paradise,
And, nursed by day and night, by sun and shower,
Doth momently to fresher beauty rise.
To us the leafless autumn is not bare,
Nor winter's rattling boughs lack lusty green:
Our summer hearts make summer's fulness where
No leaf or bud or blossom may be seen:
For nature's life in love's deep life doth lie,
Love,--whose forgetfulness is beauty's death,
Whose mystic key these cells of Thou and I
Into the infinite freedom openeth,
And makes the body's dark and narrow grate
The wide-flung leaves of Heaven's palace-gate.
James Russell Lowell
You tell me you love me, and you make me feel sad.
You tell me you love me, and I forgive the things you said.
You tell me you love me, and you break my heart.
You tell me you love me, and said that we will never part.
You tell me you love me, and leave me out to dry
You tell me you love me, it makes me want to die
You tell me you love me, and I trust you again
You tell me you love me, and I caught you with my friend
You tell me you love me, not once but twice
You tell me you love me, makes me cry at night
You tell me you love me, does love feel like this
You tell me you love me, and I blow you my last kiss.
Or seizure of malign vicissitude
Can rob this body of honour, or denude
This soul of wedding-raiment worn to-day?
For lo! even now my lady's lips did play
With these my lips such consonant interlude
As laurelled Orpheus longed for when he wooed
The half-drawn hungering face with that last lay.
I was a child beneath her touch,-- a man
When breast to breast we clung, even I and she,--
A spirit when her spirit looked through me,--
A god when all our life-breath met to fan
Our life-blood, till love's emulous ardours ran,
Fire within fire, desire in deity.
Dante Gabriel Rossetti
The armies of those I love engirth me and I engirth them,
They will not let me off till I go with them, respond to them,
And discorrupt them, and charge them full with the charge of the soul.
Was it doubted that those who corrupt their own bodies conceal themselves?
And if those who defile the living are as bad as they who defile the dead?
And if the body does not do fully as much as the soul? And if the body
were not the soul, what is the soul?
The love of the body of man or woman balks account, the body itself
That of the male is perfect, and that of the female is perfect.
The expression of the face balks account,
But the expression of a well-made man appears not only in his face,
It is in his limbs and joints also, it is curiously in the joints of
his hips and wrists,
It is in his walk, the carriage of his neck, the flex of his waist
and knees, dress does not hide him,
The strong sweet quality he has strikes through the cotton and broadcloth,
To see him pass conveys as much as the best poem, perhaps more,
You linger to see his back, and the back of his neck and shoulder-side.
The sprawl and fulness of babes, the bosoms and heads of women, the
folds of their dress, their style as we pass in the street, the
contour of their shape downwards,
The swimmer naked in the swimming-bath, seen as he swims through
the transparent green-shine, or lies with his face up and rolls
silently to and from the heave of the water,
The bending forward and backward of rowers in row-boats, the
horse-man in his saddle,
Girls, mothers, house-keepers, in all their performances,
The group of laborers seated at noon-time with their open
dinner-kettles, and their wives waiting,
The female soothing a child, the farmer's daughter in the garden or
The young fellow hosing corn, the sleigh-driver driving his six
horses through the crowd,
The wrestle of wrestlers, two apprentice-boys, quite grown, lusty,
good-natured, native-born, out on the vacant lot at sundown
The coats and caps thrown down, the embrace of love and resistance,
The upper-hold and under-hold, the hair rumpled over and blinding the eyes;
The march of firemen in their own costumes, the play of masculine
muscle through clean-setting trowsers and waist-straps,
The slow return from the fire, the pause when the bell strikes
suddenly again, and the listening on the alert,
The natural, perfect, varied attitudes, the bent head, the curv'd
neck and the counting;
Such-like I love—I loosen myself, pass freely, am at the mother's
breast with the little child,
Swim with the swimmers, wrestle with wrestlers, march in line with
the firemen, and pause, listen, count.
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful,
but she is beautiful because you love her.
At the Touch of Love,
Everyone Becomes a Poet.
Whoso loves, believes the impossible.
Elizabeth Barret Browning, Poet
Where there is love there is life.
The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do,
something to love, and something to hope for.
Joseph Addison, English Writer
Love is what you've been through with somebody.
James Thurber, Author
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.
Peter Ustinov, British Director
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
Eye Contact Body Language
Looking at people and meeting their eyes are the first steps toward striking up friendships and making positive impressions. The best advice is to make short frequent glances in social situations. Making eye contact for too long a duration can be seen as threatening; the subtext of interest becomes distorted. Failing to look at others causes suspicion as they wonder what signals are being asked. "Honesty and the ability to look someone in the eye are very closely elated," continues Dr. Marsh. Refusing to make eye contact also sends messages of arrogance and contempt communicating to the other person that they are insignificant, a non-person. There are subtle, silent rules to eye contact and they vary from culture to culture.
Why is eye contact so powerful? Good eye contact cuts physical distance in half, helps you connect with your audience on a personal level, invites audience members to participate in your presentation (if I look at you long enough you WILL talk), enables you to gauge your audience's reaction to your presentation, stops hecklers from pestering you, and so much more.
Debbie Bailey, Trainer2Go Inc.,
The eyes are a wonderful gift. They give us the ability to express our feelings of
love...acceptance...hope...fear..anger...and much more without a single word. We also gather so much with our eyes, from the most majestic scenes of nature, to the twinkle in the eye of a newborn.
Make eye contact. Eye contact emphasizes sincerity and without sincerity your point will not be received. All animals, including humans, use eye contact to read intentions and many have said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. A strong gaze also captivates the audience. You demand attention by giving it.
I know a person who is very competent in her job. However, when she speaks to individuals or groups, she does so with her eyes shut. When she opens them periodically, she stares off in a direction away from the listener. She is perceived as incompetent by those with whom she consults. One technique to help with this is to consciously look into one of the listener’s eyes and then move to the other. Going back and forth between the two (and I hope they only have two) makes your eyes appear to sparkle. Another trick is to imagine a letter “T” on the listener’s face with the cross bar being an imaginary line across the eye brows and the vertical line coming down the center of the nose. Keep your eyes scanning that “T” zone.
If talking to people outdoors, avoid wearing sunglasses as this can be very uncomfortable for the other person and can give an image of trying to hide your identity (a shifty salesman, for example). In addition, try to blink as less as possible as this can make it difficult for the other person to understand you (due to being distracted). Blinking less also gives an image of confidence.
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Maintain sincere eye contact with your audience. Use the 3-second method, e.g. look straight into the eyes of a person in the audience for 3 seconds at a time. Have direct eye contact with a number of people in the audience, and every now and then glance at the whole audience while speaking. Use your eye contact to make everyone in your audience feel involved.
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If someone in your audience is talking, focus eye contact directly on her until she stops. This shows you are in control and gets the audience to focus entirely on you.
Non Verbal Signals
The word listen contains the same letters as the word silent.
Be open and listen to another’s point of view and reflect back to the person as to what you think you heard. This important clarification skills leads to less misunderstanding, with the other person feeling heard and understood. Before explaining your own position, try to paraphrase and condense what the other is saying into one or two sentences. Start with, "So you're saying that..." and see how much you really understand about your rival's position. You may find that you're on the same wavelength but having problems communicating your ideas.
Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD
People who are good listeners tend to be attracted to the caring and counselling professions, where the ability to listen is essential. Gathering information from verbal communication - not only from the words themselves, but also from the tone and timbre - helps the listener really understand what the other person is saying. You need to be silent on the inside as well as outside to listen well!
First, communication is a two way street. You have to be ready to listen and receive as much as speak and give. Listening skills helps others to know that you are ready to communicate with them. Active listening is the best skill for this. Active listening is repeating the speaker’s words back to them and clarifying the meaning. Ask questions directly to the speaker. Do not be blameful or accusatory. Use “I” statements and not “YOU” statements. For example, do not say “You are making this too complicated.” Instead, repeat and clarify: “I think this is complex because (repeat), does this mean that (clarify).”
Expectation can begin a conversation long before a single word is spoken. What we "think" is going to happen in a conversation can greatly impact how we enter it.
Going into a conversation, expecting to be taught, helps set a relaxed mind and body that is open to listen, then speak. You never know, you might come away with more knowledge than you ever expected.
Sometimes we don't understand other people, because we're not listening — or not listening well. We're distracted or simply not paying attention. But sometimes we don't understand them, because we're not hearing what they want to communicate. We're not listening to the right level.
Who do we listen to? Those who listen to us! The best communicators know that when you take an interest in others by asking questions and remembering important details in their stories, you create a natural bond. Keep your conversations balanced. If you're doing most of the talking, then you're not allowing others to shine. The way to be commanding is not to dominate, but rather reciprocate the gift of listening.
Listen: The best way to gain respect of your manager or coworkers is to be a good listener. This will bolster their opinion of you as a team member and they will more likely listen to you in return. A helpful hint -- ask questions to clarify your understanding and to show interest in the subject.
Put out a consistent message about your values. Knowing who you are, and what you stand for, can help your employees make better decisions on their own (or at least decisions that you will like better). If you're sending mixed messages, explain them or suffer the consequences.
Women, don’t try to get men to talk if they’re not ready. Observe and listen rather than process out loud. Men, understand that processing is a way for women to include others and build relationships.
Don't take another person's reaction or anger personally, even if they lash out at you in what seems a personal manner. Another person's mood or response is more likely about fear or frustration than it is about you as an individual. Take a deep breath and count to 10, and see it as a way of letting the other person vent before he is able to communicate what's really on his mind.
1. Speak to people
2. Smile at people
3. Address people by name
4. Be warm, friendly and helpful
5. Be enthusiastic about life
6. Be genuinely interested in people
7. Look for the opportunity to give praise
8. Be considerate of other people’s feelings
9. Be thoughtful and respectful of other people’s opinions
10. Be a great listener
Don’t mumble! It’s appalling how many IT people are “low talkers“. Fair or not, if people have trouble understanding you they’ll stop listening. Mumbling is usually a sign of lack of confidence - in a business setting it will often be taken as a lack of confidence in what you are saying, not a lack of confidence in speaking itself. You don’t have to be the loudest voice in the room but make sure you don’t mumble.
Switch from being on automatic to being on purpose
Solicit feedback from others on your communication style and effectiveness.
Assess your own knowledge and training about communication.
Define organizational communication protocols.
Look at the structure of the organization and how it impacts all communication.
Use active listening.
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Ask Questions - If you hear something that confuses you, you should ask about it. Maybe you missed a detail or maybe you remembered something others forgot. In any case, it's important that everyone understand exactly what's going on. Chances are that if you're confused, then others are too.
Conversely, if a team member asks you a question, you should answer it courteously. The team member may be bringing up a crucial detail that could make or break the team's plans.
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Is it clear?: Ask yourself each time you communicate, 'Is the message is clear?' Most confusion and frustration in the workplace is caused by failing to be specific. For example, you may tell a coworker that you need the report as soon as possible. In your mind that means that you will have it within two days. Your coworker might hear your statement as: "I can adjust the timeframe to fit my priority list." It would be better to state that you need the report by the end of the day on Friday.
Since there is nothing to attain, the Bodhisattva lives by the perfection of wisdom with no hindrance in the mind:
no hindrance and therefore no fear.
The Heart Sutra
Living beings are numberless, I vov to save them;
Desires are inexhaustible, I vow to abandon them;
Dharma gates are countless, I vow to enter them;
The Buddha way is unsurpassbale, I vow to embody it
The Four Great Mahayana vows
The wise person, who hurries when it's time to hurry and
who slows his pace down when slowness is the thing, is
deeply happy because he's got priorities in line.
If he doesn't speak up, others can't know him;
he's a wise man lost among fools.
Anguttara Nikaya 2.51
If you never meet your equal, travel Alone.
There is no fellowship with fools.
Don't cling to what is pleasant or unpleasant.
Suffering missing the first, getting the second.
Liking things just hurts too much; don't do it.
For he is free who has no likes or hates
"It's too cold, too hot,too late."
With excuses like these,
People shirk their work,
And the moment passes them by.
As the smith burns out the silver's dross,
So the wise man burns away his own
As bright but scentless flowers that bear no fruit,
Are words of one who leaves them unfulfilled.
But as scented flowers bearing fruit,
Are words of one who carries them to fruition.
Though tainted means, even if for others,
The righteous does not want success that way.
Heronds, Cats and burglars,
By moving silently and carefully,
Accomplish what they set out to do,
Bodhisattvas also work this way
He constantly abandons useless mindsets and cultivate useful mindsets.
He is resolute and concentrated in his effort. He never abandons his
efforts toward achieving useful mindsets.
Anguttara Nikaya 5.53
If you claim a position, you don't have the correct view.
Instructions from Manjushri
All the evil karma created by me from of old, on account of my
beginningless greed, hatred and ignorance,
born of my deeds, work and thoughts,
I now confess openly and fully.
Zen Gatha of Purification
That's how it is! Few are those who get rich and yet don't become
intoxicated and irresponsible from it, who don't get greedy for
sensual delight, who don't mistreat living things.
Samyutta Nikaya 3.6
High rank depends on circumstances; is only gained
through effort; yet is effortlessly lost. it does not lead to
contentment or happiness, still less to peace of mind.
What good is matted hair and cloaks, you fool!
Your insides are tangled, yet you comb your surface!
When my success is talked about at work,
I'm quick to have everyone jump in.
But when it's others getting compliments,
I just don't feel like joining in the fun.
Even heavenly pleasure don't distract
One who's pleased by ending of desire.
Health is the best gift. Peace the best wealth
Trust is the best bond. Nirvana happiness.
Once, during a meditation retreat, a student said to the Zen teacher
Soen Nakagawa, "I am very discouraged. What should I do?"
Soen replied, "Encourage others." This is Zen thinking.
Philip Toshio Sudo, Zen Computer, p.67
Reaching for the silence he hears every single sound.
Buddha said if we really need to,
We have to do some really nasty things.
But never just because someone has asked.
The precious jewel of the Teaching 12, quoting the Ratnavali
One who turns away from recklessness
Is like the moon emerging from the clouds.
Her evil deeds give way to good and she
Is like the moon emerging from the clouds.
Strive to make your day productive
Whether in little things or big
Every day and every night
Bring you closer to your death
Life is easy for the shameless, cunning,
Corrupt, brazen, nasty and betraying.
But for one who's honest and insightful,
Trying to pursue purity, it's hard
Dhammapada 244 - 245
As a solid rock doesn't quaver in the wind,
So the wise are moved by neither praise nor blame.
Yunmen addressed his monks and said,"I do not ask about
before the 15th of the month; tell me about after the 15th."
Nobody said anything, so he answered himself: "Everyday is
a good day".
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If you don't get drunk, no one needs to tell you not to.
Rules about what to do and not do only apply to inferior
priests and priestesses.
Zen Teacher Bankei
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Some love lasts a lifetime. True love lasts forever.
Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope.
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.
Zora Neale Hurston
Love reminds you that nothing else matters.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
There is no remedy for love but to love more.
Henry David Thoreau
One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love.
As long as I always hold you in my heart, I will never lose you
Only Death can do us apart.
The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
Live well, laugh often, and love with all of your heart!
Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.
Barbara De Angelis
Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.
Someday you’ll look and we’ll be gone... but tomorrow may bring rain, so I’ll follow the sun.
Tears are just words the heart can't say.
For every mile that we grow apart I feel something break and know it must be my heart.
Once upon a time I was falling in love, but now I’m only falling apart.
Total Eclipse of the Heart
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.
The tears I wish to wipe away, will run unchecked for another day. Alas, that is the price I pay.
Someone can walk into your life and it is not until after they walk out that you realize that they were even there.
Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, pain of love lasts a lifetime.
Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.
Its hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone if your heart still does.
Sometimes it's hard to love someone because you're so afraid of losing them
The hardest part of dreaming about someone you love is having to wake up.
There is one pain I often feel which you will never know because it is caused by the absence of you.
Love conquers all things; let us too surrender to love.
Virgil, Greek Poet
Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass.
To live without loving is to not really live.
Moliere, French writer
Love sought is good, but given unsought is better.
If music be the food of love, play on.
Love comforteth like sunshine after rain.
There is no greater invitation to love than loving first.
Love is the greatest refreshment in life.
What Men Find Attractive,
A beautiful woman turns heads and is coveted by most men making beauty the top factor that attracts men. However those women not blessed with good looks need not despair. You can still enhance your best features with your make-up skills or cosmetic surgery if needed. And again beauty is a relative concept, a woman who appeals to one man may turn off another.
Body Language Attraction
A curvaceous figure is another thing that attracts men, something that the media constantly flashes. Firm heavy breasts and a well-proportioned body are in. If you are not naturally endowed with this, you can work out and improve on this. Beyond the sexual zones, an attractive woman’s hair can be very attractive, especially long and silky hair. A sexy voice can be a great turn on for any man. This is a skill that can be developed, especially by watching movies.
A cheerful demeanor is infectious. A woman with a sense of humor and cheeriness is attractive, so flash those smiles. A woman’s warmth and affection can attract men to her like bees to honey! The care you show your friends and family never goes unnoticed by men and they want to experience the same.
Perfume has the unique quality of helping a woman attract a man. Try different perfumes and see what works for you and blends well with your personality. Light floral perfumes are great for the day while heavier and more expensive ones are good for evenings out.
Personality and Confidence leads to Success
An appealing woman’s personality, the confident way she carries herself and grooms herself can be very attractive. After all, no man would like to be seen with a clumsy, unkempt woman. Take care to dress well in clothes that suit your looks and figure. Get regular pedicures, manicures, facials, in short everything you need to look poised. This will give you a lot of self-confidence.
Women who can converse interestingly
A woman who makes good company will be sought after. Make sure that anyone who talks to you enjoys the experience. Keep yourself updated with the latest news, trends and cued on to people, this will make you an interesting person.
Food and Fatal Love
All men love good food. A woman who enjoys cooking and is a good cook will definitely win brownie points in the attraction game. The age old adage about the way to a man’s heart through the stomach still holds good.
This quick at-a-glance guide to what makes women attractive can help you get your dream man. So get started.
It's kind of fun to do the impossible.
A compliment is like a kiss through a veil.
Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.
Doing more things faster is no substitute for doing the right things.
Stephen R. Covey
Do first things first, and second things not at all.
The best way out of a difficulty is through it.
You don't know who is important to you until you actually lose them.
Age is a very high price to pay for maturity.
Never put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.
Science is what you know, philosophy is what you don't know.
Inches make champions.
In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It Goes On.
No great thing is created suddenly.
Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.
Marriage is an adventure, like going to war.
G. K. Chesterton
And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.
What we have to learn to do, we learn by doing.
If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.
Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.
I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.
It is easier to get forgiveness than permission.
Grace Murray Hopper
The best way to have a good idea is to have lots of ideas.
Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.
The secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered I was not God.
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr
A problem well stated is a problem half solved.
Charles F. Kettering
You can't escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.
Well done is better than well said.
It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well.
“You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
Teachers open the door but you must walk through it yourself.
Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it.
Do not confine your children to your own learning, for they were born in another time.
Only he that has traveled the road knows where the holes are deep.
It is not the knowing that is difficult, but the doing.
A man without a smiling face must not open shop.
Live today, forget the past.
Before you can score you must first have a goal.
In prosperity, caution; in adversity, patience.
Men never remember, but women never forget.
The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.
Every cloud has a silver lining.
Better reap two days too soon than one day too late.
Great talkers are little doers.
Gratitude is the heart's memory.
All the treasures of earth cannot bring back one lost moment.
The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everyone else up.
We tend to judge others by their behaviour and ourselves by our intentions
Albert F. Schlieder
A house divided against itself cannot stand
Loving can cost a lot but not loving always cost more
Laughter rises out of tragedy, when you need it the most, and rewards you for your courage.
You will "act like" the sort of person you conceive yourself to be
No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him.
Something there is that doesn't love a wall, That wants it down.
I would sooner fail than not be among the greatest.
John Keats British Poet
Knowledge is Power
We will either find a way or make one.
Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.
For the uniqueness of man lies in his capacity for self-transcendence
Ruth Nanda Anshen
I celebrate myself, and sing myself. And what I assume you shall assume
To know oneself, one should assert oneself
Lack of money is the root of all evil.
George Bernad Shaw
A major part of the meaning of life is contained in the very process of discovering it.
Hell is the suffering of being unable to love
There is only one reality: the act of feeing ourselves in the process of making choices
The true vocation of man is to find his way for himself
You can't go home again
Individuality is founded in feeling
Jealousy is the jaundice of the soul
The creative process is a living thing, implanted, as it were in the souls of men
The maxim "nothing avails but perfection" may be spelled paralysis.
The most beautiful gift we can give each other is the truth.
Every man alone is sincere. At the entrance of a second person, hypocrisy begins
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Language is a machine for making falsehoods
A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Short Quotes to Motivate You Everyday
Tuesday Short Motivational Quotes
Brigands demand your money or your life; women require both.
An apple a day keeps the doctor away, but an onion a day keeps everyone away.
I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.
A day without sunshine is like... night.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Age to women is like Kryptonite to Superman.
Health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
At my age I do what Mark Twain did. I get my daily paper, look at the obituaries page and if I’m not there I carry on as usual.
Patrick Moore, astronomer
Yes time flies. And where did it leave you? Old too soon...smart too late.
When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.
Education is what remains when one has forgotten everything he learned in school.
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?
Cheer up, the worst is yet to come.
If you think your boss is stupid, remember: you wouldn't have a job if he was any smarter.
Friday, April 25, 2008
Consider how long you look into someone's eyes when you speak. Most people can only look into someone's eyes for at most three seconds before either person glances away. This is because eye contact expresses intimacy, and as a direct glance becomes longer, the feelings become more intense. So, for a professional speech, only look directly into someone's eyes for about a second. A longer glance might make someone uncomfortable or could be construed as inappropriate flirting.
Matthew Arnold Stern
There are a few things that are dead giveaways to a woman that you're a big-time wuss and not worth her time.
Can't maintain eye contact
Have slumped, submissive posture
Give away your power
Look for attention and approval from others
When the person is a stranger, look at them, make eye contact, smile and look away. Look back again, smile, and hold their gaze for a bit longer than the first time. They should come right over! If they are too shy, just say hello, and introduce yourself. Don't start out with "what do you do?" or any other cliches. Even compliment someone on something specific, and make it genuine!
First, as usual you make eye contact, and if she responds favorably, you don't wait. You have to make your move quickly.You look at her again as if you know her from somewhere but can't put your finger on it. Then you walk over and ask "Did you go to BlahBlah High School by any chance?"
I was at work one day working out after my break and was practicing my eye contact thing between sets with this really hot girl near the dumbbell rack.I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause I had no intentions of acting. Well, I had to go over to get a set of dumbbells for my next exercise and as I got close to where she was she suddenly turned around and said "I have a boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would have kinda stood there in shock and said nothing but, I guess all that mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing the words just came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go telling every stranger you see." Then I just walked off with my weights to do my sets. 5 min later she comes over to me and apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of being picked up by losers while she was trying to do a workout.
You will know it is your turn to speak when they look steadily at you. A quick glance need only be to check that you are still listening. A steady gaze indicates that a reply is now expected.
The Relaxed Therapist
Usually, one person , let's say in a bar, sees someone they like and will check them out. Eye contact is made for the briefest instant and is followed by looking away. Glances will be made in either direction until eventually, if the feeling in both parties is mutual, the gaze will be held longer and this is then followed by a courtesy smile. Now, at this stage, approval being made via eye contact, it is time to do something about it. But in most cases, nothing happens. Why? Because the fear factor sets in and the man (usually the man) is put off by making a proper approach because she is in a group. A confident man will return the gaze and then move in.
Never use your own eye contact in attempt to get women to hold eye contact with you. She should be trying to get eye contact with you more than you are with her. To do this effectively, it shouldn't be something that you focus on too much. Remember, this is flirting, and it should be fun.
Smile and look people in the eye. Good eye contact is crucial for effective nonverbal communication. It lets the person know you are interested in what he or she has to say. Without that eye contact, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to connect with others. Think about the times when people don't acknowledge you. How does it make you feel? Boothman
Make Across the Room Eye Contact
Do your best not to seem creepy - this means using a moderate smile with your mouth closed. If you have not met or don't know the great woman you are after, it's best not to stare. This means once eye contact is made, don't keep your gaze on her. A good rule is no more than 1.5 to 2 seconds. After that, look down and turn away.
Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the guy's forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them you're flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
Take the time to look into your partner’s eyes
Again, this may seem a very simple thing, but it is amazing how quickly a relationship can change from passionate to passive. Gazing in each other’s eyes can stimulate the senses and create romance. Make sure that you use plenty of eye contact in your day-to-day interactions as well. You will be amazed at how much you can say to each other with your eyes.
Along with eye contact you also want to use other body language and clues as a guide. For example, when a woman looks at you then directly away, she's probably just scanning the landscape with you in it. On the other hand, when she looks at you, then down and away, that's a very good sign, regardless of the length of the contact. Another eye contact clue is when she looks at you out of the corner of her eye. For example, she's sitting, talking with a girlfriend, but looks at you (more than once) without shifting her head.
After his death in 1827, some friends stumbled upon three letters written to Beethoven's “unsterbliche Geliebte” which in German means Immortal Beloved. Who was the intended recipient of this lengendary composer's romantic letter? Why did he not send it out? These are questions unanswered. They were also turned into a movie, Immortal Beloved (1994), starring Gary Oldman as Beethoven.
Researchers, scholars and fans have written many theories about the "subject" of these letters. Chief among them being the Countess Giulietta Guicciardi. The Count of Brunsvik's two daughters were the other two candidates. All of them were students of his piano classes.
The enigmatic Beethoven romantic life seems to be shrouded by mystery. Even Goethe, the German author, referered to him as “an utterly untamed personality.”
His magical music and passion endeared him to many women, who were attracted by the wild magneticism. Some biographers say that Beethoven was well known to many prostitutes. But whether he slept with them is a matter of conjecture.
Nevertheless, when the letters became public, many saw his romantic prose as good enough to stir the feelings of any woman.
While the media has churned out many stories about his amorous ways, one thing is clear - that these letters have profound love written all over them. Read the romantic letters and enjoy.
July 6, 1802
My angel, my all, my very self - Only a few words today and at that with pencil (with yours) - Not till tomorrow will my lodgings be definitely determined upon - what a useless waste of time - Why this deep sorrow when necessity speaks - can our love endure except through sacrifices, through not demanding everything from one another; can you change the fact that you are not wholly mine, I not wholly thine - Oh God, look out into the beauties of nature and comfort your heart with that which must be - Love demands everything and that very justly - thus it is to me with you, and to your with me. But you forget so easily that I must live for me and for you; if we were wholly united you would feel the pain of it as little as I - My journey was a fearful one; I did not reach here until 4 o'clock yesterday morning. Lacking horses the post-coach chose another route, but what an awful one; at the stage before the last I was warned not to travel at night; I was made fearful of a forest, but that only made me the more eager - and I was wrong. The coach must needs break down on the wretched road, a bottomless mud road. Without such postilions as I had with me I should have remained stuck in the road. Esterhazy, traveling the usual road here, had the same fate with eight horses that I had with four - Yet I got some pleasure out of it, as I always do when I successfully overcome difficulties - Now a quick change to things internal from things external. We shall surely see each other soon; moreover, today I cannot share with you the thoughts I have had during these last few days touching my own life - If our hearts were always close together, I would have none of these. My heart is full of so many things to say to you - ah - there are moments when I feel that speech amounts to nothing at all - Cheer up - remain my true, my only treasure, my all as I am yours. The gods must send us the rest, what for us must and shall be -
Your faithful LUDWIG
You are suffering, my dearest creature - only now have I learned that letters must be posted very early in the morning on Mondays to Thursdays - the only days on which the mail-coach goes from here to K. - You are suffering - Ah, wherever I am, there you are also - I will arrange it with you and me that I can live with you. What a life!!! thus!!! without you - pursued by the goodness of mankind hither and thither - which I as little want to deserve as I deserve it - Humility of man towards man - it pains me - and when I consider myself in relation to the universe, what am I and what is He - whom we call the greatest - and yet - herein lies the divine in man - I weep when I reflect that you will probably not receive the first report from me until Saturday - Much as you love me - I love you more - But do not ever conceal yourself from me - good night - As I am taking the baths I must go to bed - Oh God - so near! so far! Is not our love truly a heavenly structure, and also as firm as the vault of heaven?
Beethoven's Third Love Letter
Though still in bed, my thoughts go out to you, my Immortal Beloved, now and then joyfully, then sadly, waiting to learn whether or not fate will hear us - I can live only wholly with you or not at all - Yes, I am resolved to wander so long away from you until I can fly to your arms and say that I am really at home with you, and can send my soul enwrapped in you into the land of spirits - Yes, unhappily it must be so - You will be the more contained since you know my fidelity to you. No one else can ever possess my heart - never - never - Oh God, why must one be parted from one whom one so loves. And yet my life in V is now a wretched life - Your love makes me at once the happiest and the unhappiest of men - At my age I nedd a steady, quiet life - can that be so in our connection? My angel, I have just been told that the mailcoach goes every day - therefore I must close at once so that you may receive the letter at once - Be calm, only by a clam consideration of our existence can we achieve our purpose to live together - Be calm - love me - today - yesterday - what tearful longings for you - you - you - my life - my all - farewell. Oh continue to love me - never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved.
Tes yeux sont aussi brillant que des diaments
Your eyes are as brilliant as diamonds
je tiens à toi comme à la prunelle de mes yeux
I hold you like the pupil of my eyes, you are the apple of my eye
tu es la femme que je cherchais!
you are the woman whom I was looking for
tu es jolie
you are pretty
tu es mignon
you are nice
El amor abre todas las puertas; el rencor las cierra
Qu'est-ce que tu voudraissavoir?
La meilleure preuve qu'il existe des êtres intelligents dans l'univers, c'est qu'aucun n'a tenté d'entrer en contact avec nous.
The best proof than there exist intelligent beings in the universe, it is that none tried to come into contact with us.
Veux-tu m'épouser ?
Will you Marry me
Hein ? Je te sais ? Qui est tu ?
Hmmm. I know you? Who are you?
L'amour se plaît un peu dans le dérèglement
The love is liked a little in the disordered state
Pour moi, tu es aussi precieuse que l'or et aussi ravissante qu'un coucher de soleil
I adore you
Ta splendeur rayonne jusqu'au fond de ma pensee
Your splendour radiates until the bottom of my thought
L'amour est un grand maître, il instruit tout d'un coup
Friendship Day is celebrated on every first Sunday of August and is a fitting tribute to friendship. It was initially declared a holiday in honor of friends by the U.S. Congress in 1935. The idea caught on and now we have people the world over enjoying the day with their friends. In 1997, the United Nations appointed the beloved and friendly cartoon character - Winnie - the Pooh as the world's Ambassador of Friendship.
Friendship has been a beautiful relationship that has been cherished since the advent of mankind. Man being a social animal has always believed in making friends and there are numerous tales of true friendship that are told and retold all over again. Friends come in all sizes, shapes and colors but what’s important is how well you vibe.
Friendship Day is celebrated by exchanging cards, gifts or flowers with friends. However, if you are unable to meet your friends in person, don’t forget to send them egreetings or smses that show you care and cherish this wonderful bond. You can even dedicate a song to them on your favorite radio or TV station.
Friendship bands or bracelets are available in an array of colors and designs. From plain colored ones with a message to beaded or embossed ones, you’ll find something to suit the taste of your friend.
The whole idea of giving something to your friend is to make it personal. So do make it a point to include a special message – it could be a reminder of a good time you both shared or a joke that both of you cracked up over, or even an old picture when you were kids.
Make your friend feel special by planning something unique. A picnic, a cake with a special message for your friend on it, a special friendship poem on your friendship, a scrapbook with pictures taken together, a giant teddy bear with a special message, just a few ideas to get your mind ticking. The key is to get original and make this a day to remember throughout life. Long live friendship!
Everything and everyone in your life is there by your choice.
Stephen C. Paul
Breathe Smile Be.
To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect.
When one teaches, two learn.
I want, by understanding myself, to understand others.
Whether you think you can or think you can't, you are right.
Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.
Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
After crosses and losses men grow humbler and wiser.
Truth is one, sages call It by different names.
One of the things I keep learning is that the secret of being happy is doing things for other people.
May you live all the days of your life.
Life is a Strange School.
Short Quotes from the Bible
As you think in your heart, so are you.
The truth shall make you free.
Let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action.
1 John 3:18 NRSV
It is more blessed to give than to receive.
Acts xx. 35
Let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.
They that sow in tears shall reap joy.
If God is for us, who can be against us.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear.
1 John iv. 18.
Study to be quiet, and to do your own business.
1 Thessalonians 4:11
The sleep of a laboring man is sweet.
Ecclesiastes v. 12
But you be strong and do not lose courage, for there is reward for your work.
Read what famous people said about dreaming to glory.
Nothing happens unless first a dream.
We are the music makers and we are the dreamers of dreams.
If you can dream it, you can do it.
In sleep, fantasy takes the form of dreams.
I wake up in the morning with a dream in my eyes.
A man's dreams are an index to his greatness.
Hope is a waking dream.
Aristotle, Greek Philosopher
Nothing happens unless first a dream.
Whatever you can dream, begin to do it. Boldness has the power and magic in it.
All men of action are dreamers.
James G. Huneker
Dream the dreams that have never been dreamt.
Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born."
Dale E. Turner
We have got to have a dream if we are going to make a dream come true.
Denis E. Waitley
Only as high as I reach can I grow,
Only as far as I seek can I go,
Only as deep as I look can I see,
Only as much as I dream can I be.
Wake up in the morning with a dream in my eyes.
The end of wisdom is to dream high enough to lose the dream in the seeking of it.
Dream as if you'll live forever live as if you'll die today.
Jiddu Krishnamurti, Famous Indian Thinker
There is no truth. There is only perception.
When you speak the truth, you don't have to remember it.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a small step.
Lao Tzu (570-490 BC), Famous Inspirational quote by the Chinese Founder of Taoism.
The best way to escape from a problem is to solve it.
Alan Saporta, American Singer.
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
Thomas Edison. On inventing the electric bulb after several failed attempts.
I demand more of myself than anyone else could ever expect.
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
To accomplish great things, we must dream as well as act.
We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit.
All you need in life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.
Good things, when short, are twice as good.
I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.
I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.
Thinking is the hardest work there is. That is why so few people engage in it.
If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut.
What we believe, we become.
Act as if it were impossible to fail.
Those who stand for nothing fall for anything
Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it.
Myths which are believed in tend to become true.
It is not important what you believe, only that you believe
He does not believe who does not live according to his belief.
To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.
Dont give up at half time. Concentrate on winning the second half.
Paul "Bear" Bryant
Faith is not belief. Belief is passive. Faith is active.
To succeed, we must first believe that we can.
Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.
Pearl S Buck
Fortune befriends the bold.
Love is so short, forgetting is so long.
In short, life is long.
Life is too short for a long story.
Mary Wortley Montagu
In short I will part with anything for you but you.
Mary Wortley Montagu
Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its shortness.
Jean de La Bruyère
A short saying often contains much wisdom.
Sophocles, Greek philosopher
In short, Life Coaching is believing in someone until they believe in themselves.
In short, what my net can't catch isn't fish.
Life is short, the art long
I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think.
Beauty is a short-lived tyranny.
George Bernard Shaw
Nothing is so admirable in politics as a short memory.
Life's a short summer, man a flower.
Life's too short to stuff a mushroom.
In short, life is full of causes of which we do not know the effects.
If you ask [the best time managers] to do anything, they say, "How long is that going to take me? I have to gather the equipment. I have to set it up. I have to check for batteries. I have to sit down and think a little bit." If you go through this process, then you're in the position to make smart decisions about which tasks you will do, which tasks you won't, what you should delegate, and how you can create shortcuts. It's a breakthrough skill.
Julie Morgenstern Time management Consultant, author of Time Management From The Inside Out
Time is a great healer, but a poor beautician.
Lucille S. Harper
Time is money.
Examine how you’re spending the workday and eliminate time wasters.
Organize everything around you so you can think and have more time
Unclutter your mind with cues that will help you remember.
Examine work you dread doing and figure out a better, quicker way to
Delegate everything you can and automate how you follow up later.
Incorporate the right technology and finish work six times quicker.
Peggy Duncan, professional speaker and personal productivity expert
You must get good at one of two things. Planting in the spring or begging in the fall.
Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will be established.
Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.
Just as you did for your family life, draw up a thorough list of your commitments and work load. Then sort it into "My direct responsibility" and "Indirect workload." If you are in a position to delegate, get going and toss off the indirect workload to the eager beavers that abound. If you are simply overloaded, meet with your boss and suggest a plan for spreading the wealth for a more efficient work process.
Molly Gold, creator of the The GO MOM Planner
The real trick to time management is not how much faster you can file papers or how much multitasking you can do. The real trick is to keep other people from wasting your time.
Mark Lamendola, Time Management Expert, Event Speaker
Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year -- and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade.
Creative Time. Sometimes the buzz of activity and retail scenes in airports sparks my creative thought. Travel time can be a quiet yet inspired time for creative mental work. Brainstorm on paper. Doodle. Create a new product or service based on the ideas you gather.
Jana M. Kemp , facilitator and Time Architect, author of two books – Moving Meetings (McGraw Hill, 1994) and No!, (Making Time Strategies when traveling by air).
Everything requires time. It is the only truly universal condition. All work takes place in time and uses up time. Yet most people take for granted this unique, irreplaceable, and necessary resource. Nothing else, perhaps, distinguishes effective executives as much as their tender loving care of time.
Peter F. Drucker
Pacing yourself and gaining control of your time lets you accomplish what you value at work, in school, or at home. Skillful management of time gives you more time for friends, family, and leisure activities. It also helps avert burnout—total loss of initiative or the ability to continue to work toward accomplishing the task at hand.
Jan Yager, Ph.D, Time Management Expert, Speaker, Consultant, Author, Trainer
Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it. No idleness, no laziness, no procrastination; Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
All the flowers of all of the tomorrows are in the seeds of today.
A boy picks up his father’s manners, attitude towards others, strength of character (or lack of it), values and discipline. While a girl unconsciously imbibes her mother’s generosity, kindness, sacrifice and devotion. If a father is submissive, the son could reveal ‘effeminate’ traits in later life. And an overbearing mother will instill man-like traits in her daughter.
Though daughters naturally imitate their mothers, they have a strong romantic relationship with the father, who is the man they most admire. And the boy develops a strong bondage with the mother, though he want to grow up, strong and dominating, like his dad.
Pan your sight over the entire class you’re addressing. This not only ensures interaction but also provides you with details of who’s not attentive. Go at a uniform pace, stopping by to emphasize on vital points and recapitulate every ten minutes. All the while you must look for signals that tell you if you’re being understood or not. Blank faces, fidgeting, looking out through the window or turning eyes away as you look at them are warning signs. Address these signals immediately, or an hour’s lecture will be in vain.
Are you being too fast, inaudible or incommunicable? Whatever the reason, identify go over the topic again and clarify doubts at once. This way you’ll be saving yourself a lot of trouble when exams are round the corner.
Use your voice well, emphasizing important points a little louder. Pause when you’re just said something critical. Repeat when necessary. Allow students the time to take notes of these points.
Write down headings and subheadings, key points and proceed to the conclusion logically. Refer your notes to be focussed on the lecture and refresh your memory.
A picture is worth a thousand words.Educational aids are a must to keep the audience rivetted to the topic. Use collages, charts, models, audio-visual aids, pictures, tapes or else, improve your drawing skills.
Don’t let your lecture turn dry, instead make it interesting by posing a question, eliciting responses, discussing, critically examining and clarifying doubts. This would also give inputs on comprehension skills of the students, and help you package your class better.
Conclude the class by emphasizing the main points, doing a summary or asking a student to run through his notes, for the benefit of all.