Wednesday, May 31, 2006

The Art of Writing a Positive and Winning Resume. 20 Key Points Explained.

Writing a winning resume is easy if you follow these tips.

1. What is a resume?
It's a tool which gets you to the employer's table. It bags an interview for you, not a job. It's not a biographical piece of work or a confessional.

2. What's a resume about ?
It's all about you - your education, employments, accomplishments. A true resume predicts the way you'd perform in the next job.

3. How to make my resume refreshing ?
Remove every sentence that starts with " my responsibilites included" and replace them with accomplishments at the workplace.

4. What's the commonest mistake made in resumes ?
Lack of a 'job objective'. You must reveal a sense of direction or your exployer would have to use the paper shredder.

5. How to start a resume ?
Outline your job objective, then begin writing the resume.

6. What you should not put on a resume ?
A> The word "Resume" at the top of the resume.
B> Salary information.
C> Complete address of former employers.
D> Reasons for leaving previous job.
E> Personal saction
F> References
G> Father's name and occupation.

Use the resume to promote your new career objective. The resume, should reveal your passion for the job, the kind of work you were always searching for. They can't refuse someone with such an enthusiasm for a particular kind of job. Give a brief on how the interest crept up and how you kept it alive all these days.

7. Are summaries at the beginning of the resume good ?
Definitely. The employers gets the complete picture about you in a jiffy. Write about four to five lines only.
Write about your experience, relevant degree or training, achievements, strong skills and something uniquely personal.

Four successful years in marketing. MBA with emphasis on marketing. The top sales guy of the company for two years in the running. Extremely good at negotiating and closing corporate clients. Team man with lots of initiative and an unmatched drive for success.

8. Should my resume be in the chronological format or the skill-based functional one ?
The chronological format is fine if you're continuing in the same field and moving up in your career, especially if your work history shows continuous progress.

The functional resume works better when you're changing fields.

9. What skills areas should I put on my resume ?
The skills must relate to the job being applied for. Read the recruitment advertisement carefully to find out what the employer wants, find out what the employer wants, then design your resume to suit the employer's needs.

10. What if I have stuck to one employer for a long time ?
You can show how you have grown in the organization. List job titles and accomplishments. Focus on the changing responsibilities, your ability to handle them with success and the continuous growth in your career graph.

11. What if I'm overqualified for a job ?
Be smart, its not necessary to list all your academic achievements and degrees in the resume. Use headings like "Relevant Work History" or "Recent Work History" and give only as many years of work experience desired for the job you're applying for. The same thing about education. Even if you are a Ph.D, use "Relevant Education" to show that you're MA/ M Sc. Once you get to the interviewer's table, you can convince them about your candidature.

12. How can I put my summer part-time jobs on my resume ?
Summer part-time jobs, summer internships, summer weekends could be used to explain your early ambitions, sense of responsibility (say you footed a part of your school or college fees through this).

13. What if I haven't completed my degree as yet or I'm waiting for my results ?
Use BE due in may 2000 or degree anticipated soon or BA, Loyola College, Chennai pending.

14. What about gaps in my work history ?
Don't hide things. Be positive about what you were doing.

15. What if I have different job objectives ?
One size does not fit all. Design a resume, say for marketing, using skills and accomplishments that the job requires. If you're applying for a career in software, change it accordingly. Show up computer skills, team work, initiative etc.

16. Should I put an objective at the top of my resume or not ?
An objective is a must. It reveals your ambition. Employers don't spend more than 30 seconds going through resumes. It would be disastrous to ask him to find out your objective by going through your entire resume.

I want to work in a new field in which I have a lot of interest but little or no experience.
17. How should I design my resume ?
Work experience
This part will trigger most of the questions during the interview. Here your responsibilites, accomplishments, and professional achievements must be put down succintly. List the dates of your employment, name of the organisation, and a brief description of your accomplishments. Begin with your recent job first.

18. What if I have gaps in my employment history ?
You must be prepated to face the question at the interview. Be honest. Most interviewers appreciate this.

19. I have been working for many years, do I have to include all my jobs ?
Choose only the jobs relevant to the one applied for. Keep the resume brief. Things can be explained at the interview.

20. If I've had only one job, and it is not directly related to the job I'm applying for should I list it ?
Definitely. Put down the accomplishments in that job. This could point to the stuff you have.

Computer skills
In this 'Internet Age', computer skills are mandatory. Prospective employers would like to know what specific packages you have experience in. List the software package and the version. If you were responsible for setting up any systems, writing programs, or training employees on software, you must include that. All formal training in software packages should be listed.

Publications
This category is necessary when applying in the academic or research areas. Title of articles, magazine / news papers / journal published in should be listed. Books authored should be highlighted.

Professional Memberships
Professional licenses, memberships at professional organizations and awards received from such bodies must be listed.

Education
For those applying for their first job, this is vital.

Start with your most recent degree first. It should include the degree awarded, major, date of graduation. High school should not be listed on a resume once you have completed a degree, unless the school where you studied is very prestigous enough to merit the attention of your employers.

In case you have done some part-time job to fund your studies, it could be mentioned here. Those who have a few years of experience must put the work education section first, if it relates to the career objective or else shift the education section below work experience. Avoid giving percentage of marks, unless its exceptional.

Just follow these steps and we are sure with your winning resume, you will get your DREAM JOB :-) Good Luck...!!!

Nice quote on icons

Being an icon is overblown. Remember, an icon is moved by a mouse.

William Shatner

All You Need Is Love

The Beatles (Lennon/McCartney)

Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
There's nothing you can do that can't be done.
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy.
There's nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that can't be saved.
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be in time
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
There's nothing you can know that isn't known.
Nothing you can see that isn't shown.
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be.
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
All you need is love (all together now)
All you need is love (everybody)
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.

Monday, May 29, 2006

Win Friends and Influence People Positively

Successful people follow a few secrets to win friends. Here are a few tips for you to practise.

Listen to them
Everyone has a lot to say about their triumphs, tragedies and dreams. People want to be heard. And the one who listens in earnest is bound to gain the honour of being a good friend. Sometimes it could be a joke, a personal problem or an opinion on something. By providing an outlet to someone's thoughts and emotions, you help the person feel good, after he has unwinded his thoughts. You may not be able to solve his problem, but you can give him a feeling of being wanted.

Learn to appreciate
Compliments create a feeling of goodness. It's a positive stroke on the person's confidence. It's a stimulant to self esteem. You needn't wait for someone to scale Mount Everest to pat his back. It could be a new hairstyle or salwar kameez, a task completed, small favour done or even a joke well told.

Take them with their faults
Nobody is perfect, there will be flaws of one or another kind - laziness, forgetfulness, lying about small things, not fulfilling promises, being behind the clock, short-tempered or selfishness. Infact, you yourself may have some flaws in you. One must be like a mother who loves her child despite all this. Don't encourage them when they are at fault. Learn to put them on the right track, but over a period of time. Tell him it's quite normal, but he'd be better off without it. This way they'll not only respect you, but look upon you for help and advice.

Take the lead
People always rally behind leaders, who are the cynosure of the group. Whether it's a friend birthday bash, a community clean-up operation, raising resources to help someone, pulling your friend through a tragedy, organising a cricket match or arranging an electrician to repair a neighbour's fan, take the initiative and people will remember the gesture.

Care for the small things
Friends always remember a nice gesture, a kind word or gentle remark more than anything else. The first call on her birthday, the shoulder lent on the day he failed to crack a big interview, a joke that soothed a friend's tense nerves, coming to his rescue during a heated argument with colleagues, or a compliment on her dress sense, are all unforgettable moments. Have a good word for all, anytime, anywhere. They could soothe a tensed nerve, put a smile back in place or restore confidence in someone. Don't forget birthdays, go back on promise or fail to keep an appointment. Erase bad memories of friendship.

Friday, May 26, 2006

Management Guru's thought on Focus

When you have 186 objectives nothing gets done. I always ask, 'What's the one thing you want to do?' In Mexico they call me Senor Una Cosa.

Peter Drucker, management consultant and author

Love Poems full of Romance

Why I Fall In Love With You

Since I met you,
I've fallen in love with you
at least a hundred times
for a hundred different reasons.
Sometimes I fall in love with you
when I watch you doing something you enjoy,
something you're so involved in that
you're unaware of my presence.
Sometimes I fall in love with you
when I listen to you talk to other people.
Whether you're being interesting and funny
or warm and caring and genuinely concerned,
you have a way of making people feel better with nothing more than words.
Sometimes I fall in love with you
just thinking about you,
remembering all the memories we've made
...falling in love for the first time,
staying in love during the rough times,
finding more to love about each other every day.
And whenever I think about the wonderful things that lie ahead of us,
I fall totally and completely in love with you
all over again.

Shynebrite

A LOVE SONG

I love You, my Lord, my Savior,
for doing what You didn't have to,
I love You,my Great Physician,
healing all of my wounds,
I love You,my Blessed Lord,
all of me is charged unto You,
I love You, humanity's Messiah,
protecting me from myself,
I love You,the Perfect Sacrifice,
replacing me at Calvary,
I love You,MIghty,Mighty God,
towering over all things,
I love You,Bright Morning Star,
shining on a narrow path,
I love You,the GREAT I AM,
my past, present, and future,
I love You,Strong Holy Spirit,
lifting me, helping me to stand,
Each and every word that I'm saying,
isn't but a dark shadow over me,
I love You always and forever,
this is just one love song.

Christopher J. Chubbic

Indian Yogi's quote on Problem Solving

Understanding a problem is the solution.

Raj, Indian Yogi

Thursday, May 25, 2006

Do Friends Love You? Take the Emotional Love Test and find out.

Take this test to discover if friends love you.

Your friend has become pregnant. How does the news reach you.

A> She invites you to a cup of tea and breaks the news to you.
B> You meet her husband who says "we're now three in the family".
C> You bump into her at the gynaecologist's place, where you've gone to undo the wrongs of your boyfriend.

When you're in financial trouble, do friends

A> Say "I'm in the same boat".
B> Advise you to go to the pawn broker, when your wife is asleep.
C> Help you with even the pocketmoney, or atleast accompany you to the nearest Countrywide Finance office.

When friends plan a party, do they
A> Invite you as a replacement for someone who's unable to come.
B> Put your name on the organising committee's list.
C> Tell you after the party that someone told them you were sick.

When you call a friend's place on a Sunday. Does he tell you...
A> He's busy playing with the cat.
B> Picks up the phone and say's "Wrong number".
C> "Its nice to hear your voice dear".

Do friends seek you...
A> When they need some money to go bowling.
B> When their spirits are down.
C> When they're downed by spirit.

When you drop in at a friend's place. Does he...
A> Ask you "how come this side yaar".
B> Comes to the door to welcome you.
C> Invites you in and then tells his wife "We're leaving in five minutes to Mr. Kuppusamy's house".

Answers
1> A 2> C 3> B 4> C 5> B 6> B
Scores
5 and above Good. Friends indeed love you.
Below 5 only you Love your Friends.

Smart quote on winning at work

Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.

Jonathan Kozol

Positive love thought by Dalai Lama

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. Love, compassion and forgiveness ... the important thing is they should be part of our daily lives.

Dalai Lama, Tibetian spiritual leader

Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Best love approach to women

For men the most effective approaches are displays of love and commitment. Telling her he really loves her, that he cares and is committed.

Dr. Buss

Quotable quote on professionalism

A professional is someone who can do his best work even when he doesn't feel like it.

Alistair Cooke

Positively inspiring thought on meditation by Daniel Goleman

Not necessarily, because meditation is mind training. If during the walk you daydream, you plan, you reminisce, you listen to some music on your Walkman, you are not training your mind at all. If during that time, however, you are more disciplined and pay close attention to what you are experiencing, like the wind on your face, the smells and what you see, and you don't let yourself get lost in thought, that is mindfulness training--bringing your mind back to the moment whenever it starts to wander.

Then you are actually acquiring that mental skill. If you do that kind of a practice regularly, with
discipline, and you do it daily, you actually begin to reshape the brain circuitry for emotions and for perception in quite a powerful and beneficial way. In fact, Professor Davidson, whom I mentioned earler, is now looking at Olympic-level meditators, like Tibetan lamas. He's discovered that when people are in the grip of a distressing emotion like anger or high anxiety, there is a lot of activity in the right pre-frontal cortex which is right behind the forehead. When people are feeling very upbeat, energized, happy, optimistic, there is a lot of activity in the left pre-frontal cortex. The ratio of left/right activity in a person's brain when they are at rest predicts quite accurately their mood range, day to day. Just like for IQ, there is a bell curve for this ratio. Most of us are in the middle. We have good days and we have bad days. If you are extremely far to the right side, you are probably clinically depressed or have an anxiety disorder. If you are very far to the left, then when you have a bad mood, it probably doesn't last long; you bounce right back.
One day an old Tibetan lama wandered into the lab and they hooked him up. He got the highest reading to the left. By the way, when Jon Kabat-Zinn introduced mindfulness to that bio-tech company, the people there were tilted towards the right
originally. By the end of eight weeks of mindfulness training they had tilted to the left. What Davidson suspects is that there was what's called the "dose response relationship." The more you do the practice, the more the brain changes in that direction.

Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence in an interview to http://www.shareguide.com/

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Inspiring Chinese thought on duty

It is better to do one's own duty, however defective it may be,
than to follow the duty of another, however well one may perform it.
He who does his duty as his own nature reveals it, never sins.

Lao-tzu, Chinese philiospher

Famous Lao Tzu quote on small steps to success

A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.

Lao-tzu, Chinese philiospher

At the center of your being you have the answer;
You know who you are and you know what you want.

Love quote by Lao-tzu

Kindness in words creates confidence
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness
Kindness in giving creates love.

Lao-tzu, Chinese philiospher

Saturday, May 20, 2006

What's Love? Selfishness?

Love is the ultimate in Selfishness

Yet Love Lends its name

To Life's Greatest Sacrifices.

Anonymous

Inspiring quote on Failure

There is no such thing as failure. There are only outcomes. The only time you fail is the last time you try.

Thursday, May 18, 2006

Good quote on successful application of one's mind

I get the facts, I study them patiently, I apply imagination.

Bernard M. Baruch's quote

Wise thought on Character

Sow a thought, Reap an act;
Sow an act, Reap a habit;
Sow a habit, Reap a character;
Sow a character, Reap a destiny.

Anonymous

Ancient Greek love quote

Love resistless in fight, all yield at a glance of thine eye,
Love who pillowed all night on a maiden's cheek dost lie...
Over the upland folds thou roam'st, and the trackless sea
Love the gods captive holds. Shall mortals not yield to thee?

Sophocles, Antigone 781

Wednesday, May 17, 2006

Inspirational Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr's thought on work

If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well.

Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The Power Of Love

I'll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door

Feels like fire
I'm so in love with you
Dreams are like angels
They keep bad at bay-bad at bay
Love is the light
Scaring darkness away-yeah

I'm so in love with you
Purge the soul
Make love your goal

[1]-The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
Flame on burn desire
Love with tongues of fire
Purge the soul
Make love your goal

I'll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door
When the chips are down
I'll be around
With my undying, death-defying
Love for you

Envy will hurt itself
Let yourself be beautiful
Sparkling love, flowers
And pearls and pretty gir
ls Love is like an energy
Rushin' rushin' inside of me

[Repeat 1]
This time we go sublime
Lovers entwine-divine divine
Love is danger, love is pleasure
Love is pure-the only treasure

I'm so in love with you
Purge the soul
Make love your goal

The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
The power of love
A force from above
A sky-scraping dove

Flame on burn desire
Love with tongues of fire
Purge the soul
Make love your goal

I'll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door

Frankie goes to Hollywood music

Passionate inspiration

If a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live.

Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

5 Ways to Overcome Tension Headaches

Most of us experience tension headaches under extreme stress, anxiety, conflict or tension. The other type of tension headache is caused by chronic anxiety or hidden depression. Most often there's no reason to worry. Just follow these tips.

1> Take a few deep breaths and relax on a sofa. This may relieve your headache. Take a deep breath, hold it and then slowly let your head, arms and shoulder relax, as you exhale.

2> Brush your tension headache off. Put hair brush on your right temple and brush in small circles, working towards the back of your head. Repeat it on the other side. Then brush in small circles from the top of the head towards the back of the head. Brushing improves the blood circulation in the head, the lack of which may be causing the headache.

3> Exercising is a great way to keep off tension headaches. It tones up the system, improves circulation and generally makes you feel good.

4> Shut your eyes and relax. Just imagine you are lazing on a hammock close to a lake by the mountains. Hear the birds chirp and the wind rustle through the trees. In a few minutes your tension world have dissolved by the healing powers of the mind.

5> Take a walk. Many doctors suggest walking as a way to reduce tension headaches, since the body releases endorphin, the natural painkillers.

Sunday, May 7, 2006

Easy Memory Improvement Techniques

Learn simple and easy techniques for improving memory. Secrets the professionals tell you.

1> You must take interest in what you want to remember, A student must be interested in what he studies, to recall things during an exam.

2> Concentrate. Do one thing at a time. When you're studying or working focus on the task at hand, instead of letting your mind wander on family problems or unfinished weekly reports.

3> Learn to relax. Before you read, research, analyse or work on your computer, take a few deep breaths to soothe your nerves.

4> Stop worrying and start remembering. Memory problems are often not directly related to concentration, but due to a worry or problem nagging you. Solve the problem first and you'll be able to remember things better.

5> Unless you want to remember something, you're most likely to forget it. You must tell yourself that these are details you would want to store in your memory.

6> Understand what you learn. This way you'll remember things better.

7> Read aloud so that the sound registered will help you remember.

8> Telling yourself that you CAN remember is vital.

9> Do not overload your memory. Take periodic breaks while preparing for your exam or public speaking contest.

10> Repeat at regular intervals what you want to read.

11> Take notes and refer them often.

12> If you can't remember something, just let it pass over. You will most probably remember it a little later.

13> When you can't remember something, just sit down in a quiet corner and think of things associated with the person, number or event you want to recall. Chances are you'll stumble upon your answer.

14> Try to associate what you'd like to remember with something similar or contrasting.

15> Use a memory peg. For example, I remember a friend's phone number (2356493) like this. 235 is the exchange number. 64 is the year in which he was born (1964, I mean). And we joined the same company in 93 (1993). This way, till date I haven't forgotten his number.

Saturday, May 6, 2006

30 Days to Enhancing Positive Memory

Are you embarrassed at a party being unable to remember a person you've met before? Do you have a problem in recalling numbers? Are you frustrated because you forget what you want to remember? Well, there is nothing to worry, your memory can be improved.

Why we forget?

Lack of concentration
Most often we fail to remember because we don't pay complete attention to what we want to remember. Attention is like focusing a lens while shooting an object. If the lens is not adjusted well, you don't get a clear picture.

If the original impression of something seen heard, touched or tasted has not been clear, the recall is bound to be distorted. So when you meet someone or attend a sales talk, pay attention to the activity so that you'll remember it later. Attend to one thing at a time, don't be thinking about something else.

Memory not refreshed
Most us tend to forget what we have learnt within a few hours. Unless we have recalled, refreshed and revised the matter.

So, the next time you don't want to forget something, just recall the face, words, situation or object regularly and you will remember it for a long time.

Interference
Sometimes what happened before an incident, or a period of learning, and what happened after interferes with our ability to remember. We tend to forget some things because we have learnt newer things subsequently.

Interference is greater when there is similarity between the recent learning and the past learning. People tend to remember a dream vividly when they wake up in the night, but fail to recall the same in the morning. The reason being the interference by some other dream that happened later.

Repression
There is natural tendency of the mind to forget certain incidents, mostly those that are painful, unpleasant, hurt our self-esteem or conflict with our values.

Sometimes what is repressed may not be unpleasant in itself, but might be associated with something unpleasant. A child may forget the math teacher's instructions about homework, but remember his aunt's promise to buy him chocolates.

Drugs
Those who swallow a lot of pills for various illnesses experience faulty memory over a period of time. Sometimes taking drugs without medical prescription could also damage our ability to remember.

Inspiring quote by Helen Keller

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.

Helen Keller

Advice to women by inspiring author Mariah Burton Nelson

Follow your heart. Take risks. Remember that life is short, so you might as well do what you really want to do - even if no one else believes you can, even if you're not so sure yourself, even if no one has ever done it before.

Mariah Burton Nelson, inspiring author and athelete

Famous Love Lyrics of Britney Spears

I..am here to testify
that your the only one i belong to
I don't know where to start
it turned into an art...not
to show the world that it was you
you made me realize, not to compromise
the fact that you and I should meet

(i know we're gonna get...know we're gonna get get)
bombastic love, so fantastic where i'm
completely yours and you are mine
and its gonna be exactly like..in a movie
when we fall in love for the first time

now i know why, i feel so insecure
i never understood what its good for
i gotta make sure the darkness won't stop me again
i can't sit and wait any more

you made me realize..not to compromise
the fact that you and i should meet

(i know we're gonna get..gonna get get)
bombastic love, so fantastic where i'm
completely yours and yo are mine
and its gonna be exactly like in a movie
when we fall in love for the first time

Its gonna be bombastic love
everythings gonna be alright.
when i am yours and you are mine
its gonna be fantastic love
when i wake up everthing is still the same
and you don't even know my name

[bom bom]
I know its gonna be:bombastic love, so fantastic
where i'm completely yours and you are mine
and its gonna be exactly like in a movie
when we fall in love for the first time
(i know we're gonna get..know we're gonna get get)

bombastic love oh yea
i'm completely yours and you are mine
and its gonna be exactly like in the movies
babe

Britney Spears

Friday, May 5, 2006

Inspirational quote on Trust

Trust is the hardest thing to find
And the easiest thing to lose

Anonymous

Famous Love Quotes by Celebs

Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it.
Robert Mitchum


The best smell in the world is that man that you love
Jennifer Aniston


I really want to love somebody. I do. I just don't know if it's possible forever and ever.
Jim Carrey


Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly.
Mae West


I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life.
D. H. Lawrence


I think I have a love for TV hosts. I can't help it. Ted Koppel was my first crush when I was three. Then I was in love with David Letterman. He's my sweetheart. But now I've got my Tom.Drew Barrymore Every relationship I've been in, I've overwhelmed the girl. They just can't handle all the love.

How to earn someone's Trust?

Our natural tendency is to trust, because we trust our parents. It feels good to really trust. It is also an essential component of love and an important test thereof. Love without trust is dependence masquerading as love.

We must trust, it is almost biological. Most of the time, we do trust. We trust the universe to behave according to the laws of physics, soldiers not to go mad and shoot at us, our nearest and dearest not to betray us. When trust is broken, we feel as though a part of us dies, is hollowed out.

Not to trust is abnormal and is the outcome of bitter or even traumatic life experiences. Mistrust or distrust are induced not by our own thoughts, nor by some device or machination of ours – but by life's sad circumstances. To continue not to trust is to reward the people who wronged us and made us distrustful in the first place. Those people have long abandoned us and yet they still have a great, malignant, influence on our lives. This is the irony of the lack of trust.

So, some of us prefer not to experience this sinking feeling of trust violated. They choose not to trust and not to be disappointed. This is both a fallacy and a folly. Trusting releases enormous amounts of mental energy, which is better invested elsewhere. But trust – like knives – can be dangerous to your health if used improperly.

You have to know WHO to trust, you have to learn HOW to trust and you have to know HOW to
CONFIRM the existence of mutual, functional trust.

Inspiring thought by Sam Vaknin

Thursday, May 4, 2006

Positive thoughts to enhance your Beauty

For attractive lips,
Speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes,
Seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure,
Share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair,
Let a child run his fingers through it once a day.

For poise,
Walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed. Never throw out anybody.

Remember: if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find One at the end of your arm. As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands.

One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

Audrey Hepburn

Henry Miller's positive views on the failures of men

Like ships, men flounder time and again.

Henry Miller, American novelist (1891-1980).

I Love Myself The Way I Am

I love myself the way I am, there's nothing I need to change.
I'll always be the perfect me, there's nothing to rearrange.
I'm beautiful and capable, of being the best me I can.
And I love myself, just the way I am.

I love you the way you are, there's nothing you need to do.
When I feel the love inside, it's easy to love you.
Behind your fears, your rage and tears, I see your shining star.
And I love you, just the way your are.

I love the world the way it is, cause I can clearly see.
That all the things I judge are done, by people just like me.
So 'til the birth of peace on earth, that only love can bring.
I'll help it grow, by loving everything.

I love myself the way I am, and I still want to grow.
But change outside can only come, when deep inside I know.
I'm beautiful and capable, of being the best me I can.
And I love myself, just the way I am

A Unity Song