“Every time you get angry, drive one nail to the wooden fence,” said the father.
The boy prone to anger drove dozens of nails into the fence on the first day. On the second, he nailed much less. And as days passed by he slowed down.
Finally he realized that it was easy to control his temper than do this job of nailing the fence. Then came a day when he didn’t use a single nail.
Happy that he had controlled his anger, he went to his father and said, “Father, I haven’t lost my temper the whole of today.”
“Good. Now go and pull out all the nails in the fence,” said the father.
The boy did as told.
Now, the fence was full of holes.
Then the father took him to the fence, “Can you see the holes in the fence, my dear son. That’s what happens when you get angry and say or do something. It leaves an ugly scar. No matter how many times you say sorry, the wound remains unhealed.”
Notes: A big stone when thrown into a pond of clear water kicks up the mud and makes it hazy. Anger is very much like this; it clouds your judgment and makes your head fuzzy. And anything said or done in a moment of rage leaves a scar in your mind, more than anybody else’s. Likes the holes in the fence, these are a stark reminder of the damage caused, the agony. Once you realize this, you tend to stop reacting to every little thing. And finally, you become cool and calm. You begin to think, without reacting. The misery and pain no longer troubles you and you’re at peace with yourself and the world.
Rajasekar Raju KS