Why some people suck when they do nice things

When you share something with others, learn to be graceful and caring. Often I’ve seen people unintentionally use very negative words when they actually mean good.

I overheard a lady telling her maid, ”When you go home today, take this teddy bear for your child. My son wants a new toy. And I’m going to buy him one today.”

Good Lord! Is this a graceful way of giving away something? Makes the one taking it feel miserable. Doesn’t it?

How about: Please take this toy for your child. I think he may enjoy it.

Another one: Please take a few mangoes from the fruit basket for your family. My kids hate mangoes and I’m giving it all away.

How about: Do you like mangoes? If you do, please take some. Folks from my native sent us a huge basket and I’m sharing some with you.

Makes one feel loved. Simple communication isn’t easy for most people.

And communication is what we do all our lives.

How to bride communication gap with love

Many a time we think about things that we appreciate in the person we love, but sadly, we don’t tell them. Sometimes, we even fail to keep them posted on important things they ought to know. We don’t even ask her/ him what he/ she likes or dislike in us. We don’t care to seek their opinion many a time. These could lead to disaster. Find time today to talk to her/ him and listen. Bare your mind regularly. Call or speak in person, it’s important.

How to prevent conflicts with your love?

One of the best ways to prevent conflicts is take turns and talk to each other regularly. When one talks the other should listen without opposing or arguing. This enables the other to see what’s the problem caused by him/ her and find ways to mend it. When the other’s turn comes, one must give the freedom to talk but no one should hurt the other. This way both could keep airing the other’s faults and take corrective measures before it’s too late.

Communicate to save your relationship

Dealing with your wife/ partner in an open manner prevents many problems in relationships. Listening to everything she says without judging or criticizing requires character, but in the end is really worth it. Understand what she is not saying. I mean try to get into what she’s trying to mean. Make a commitment to communicate every day. And make a promise to each other that no one carries any negative impressions after the open talk is done. Weigh what you say before you do it. Find time to be together despite your tough schedules.

7 Experts Reveal the Killing Resume's Tricks

It's NOT about past jobs! IT'S ABOUT YOU, and how you performed in those past jobs--which predict how you might perform in a future job.
Yana Parker

Employers make snap judgments when glancing at your resume. If they see unrelated job titles or skills the likelihood is very high that they will make an immediate assumption that you are not qualified for the job you want. Adding to this problem is the fact that employers don't have the time to read through each of your job descriptions to determine if you have the skills they need.
Freeresumetips.com

Don't fudge over dates or titles to hide the fact that you have been unemployed, that you switched jobs too frequently or that you held low-level positions. If a prospective employer conducts a background check and discovers that you lied, you can kiss the job good-bye.
Peter Newfield

Like it or not, employers will usually make a judgment about your resume in 5 seconds. Under this time frame the most important aspect will be the titles that you listed on the resume, so make sure they grab the attention. Try to be as descriptive as possible, giving the employer a good idea about the nature of your past work experiences.
Dailywritingtips.com

A chronological format emphasizes professional experience; however, it is best if a chronological resume utilizes a focused summary of qualifications that quickly conveys essential skills to an employer. This provides an opportunity to immediately capture attention through vital keywords and employer-centric language, thereby ensuring you make a strong first impression during the critical 15-second initial screening.
Careerperfect.com

Yes, but only to the extent that the details demonstrate your accomplishments. You can use abbreviated language and make sure you “tell the story” through your results. Just telling what your responsibilities are will NOT get you the interview. You have to convince the hiring manager that you can get results.
Stefanie Spikell

The most obvious ones are spelling and grammar. It is surprising just how many resumes we receive with spelling and grammar faults. In fact it is very rare indeed to receive a resume without at least some spelling and grammar faults. It is a mistake to think that an employer will not spot your mistakes. Mistakes show a lack of thoroughness and this alone could cost you your job.
Resume Consultancy.com

6 Wokplace Etiquettes you Must Follow

You’re good at technology, designing, sales. But how about understanding people at work? That’s the key to success at work. Know your workplace etiquette to be effective at office.

Dress Smartly
If you’re new to work, it’s best not to splurge on new dresses. Get into your office and watch the general trend of dressing. See what the bosses wear. Don’t wear loud colors. Full sleeves and typical corporate trousers are recommended. Match your socks and shoes with your trousers. Don’t be seen as a casual dresser.

Avoid Gossiping at Office
Gossiping is a time wasting effort whose only reward is painful isolation. Keep away from it and avoid encouraging those who bite behind others backs. Sooner or later the gossiper is “caught” and gets isolated from peers at work.

Write formal emails
Never assume it’s okay to say hee, lol, btw etc. Be formal and polite in your emails whether to internal or external customers. Personalize each mail. Leave your complete signature with contact numbers.

Network at Office
If you sit at your desk all day, you’re not gonna make any friends. Move out, meet people and know what they do. When you need help you’ll know whom to turn to. Find out what else the workplace offers in terms of activities. Volunteer to join one or two. Contribute meaningfully. This helps build a positive brand for you.

Behavior Etiquette
Never swear at work. Don’t take unnecessary calls at work. Follow table manners. Avoid chatting net chats. And don’t be rude to anyone.

Don’t intrude into colleague’s zone
Give each one the space to do their own things. Never impose yourself on someone even if you want to help them. Don’t offer to help unless you’re comfortable with the colleague. Guide them when they seek help.

Web Unifies Us, but helps Express Individualism

The world constantly divides and unifies at the same time. A paradox indeed. But sensible and real.

The web is a great example for this. What does the web do? It brings everything in the public domain under one signle umbrella. Everything gets connected. No barriers of time or space. Maybe everyone is a netizen - a citizen of the networked world. The actual citizenship linked to the nations does not matter. The web breaks down the barriers of nations, age, religion, caste, creed, time zones, language and brings them all to the same platform. None of these matter for one to become a netizen. We are all of the same ciitizenship. How marvellous!!!

The same web also is helping in individualization. Individualization by way of creating opporutnities to individuals to pursue ones own interest and uniqueness, and strengthen the uniqueness. Earlier maybe I did not know how to express my idea, where to go to express them, how to get feedback on them, how to improve my thought process. Today I can use the web to do all these. In the process, I strengthen my individualization. Businesses get created because I know avenues to express ideas and find the means to execute them.

The paradox of division and one is not new. It is all along been studied, accepted and expressed in the Hindu philosophy. The atman or Brahman is one. It is infinite and eternal. The world is divided epxpression of the one.

The web is only an example for us to appreciate the truth of divided yet one. Oneness in the many. Many in the oneness.