Wednesday, December 31, 2008

You are Mine Love Poem

With soft still words I part
From cries within my heart
Energy soars from emptiness
Lost in thoughts of sweet caress
Pure Love your light surrounding me
Gives me peace of Samsara sea
As star pattern movements sway
Night's alight in love's array

Close your eyes and see
Inside you are all of me
I Know you are mine
Souls forever entwined
Breaths of you become my bliss
Nothing to hold, all to miss
Stopped in time with an Angel kiss
I am your all, in all of this

I love you so
As the wind driven snow
As the dawn's morning glow
You are love, all I know
As the moon's soft shine
As Earth's endless time
No reason or rhyme
I Know you are mine
Debbylyn and Barry

My lady's presence makes the roses red My lady's presence makes the roses red, Because to see her lips they blush for shame. The lily's leaves, for envy, pale became, And her white hands in them this envy bred. The marigold the leaves abroad doth spread, Because the sun's and her power is the same. The violet of purple colour came. Dyed in the blood she made my heart to shed. In brief: all flowers from her their virtue take; From her sweet breath their sweet smells do proceed; The living heat which her eyebeams doth make Warmeth the ground and quickeneth the seed. The rain, wherewith she watereth the flowers, Falls from mine eyes, which she dissolves in showers.

Henry Constable, poet


Sweetest Love, I do not go

Sweetest love, I do not go,

For weariness of thee,

Nor in hope the world can show

A fitter love for me;But since that

IMust die at last, 'tis best

To use myself in jest

Thus by feign'd deaths to die.

Yesternight the sun went hence,

And yet is here today;He hath no desire nor sense,

Nor half so short a way:Then fear not me,

But believe that I shall makeSpeedier journeys,

since I takeMore wings and spurs than he.

O how feeble is man's power,

That if good fortune fall,

Cannot add another hour,

Nor a lost hour recall!

But come bad chance,

And we join to'it our strength,

And we teach it art and length,

Itself o'er us to'advance.

When thou sigh'st, thou sigh'st not wind,

But sigh'st my soul away;

When thou weep'st, unkindly kind,

My life's blood doth decay.

It cannot be

That thou lov'st me, as thou say'st,

If in thine my life thou waste,

That art the best of me.

Let not thy divining heart

Forethink me any ill;

Destiny may take thy part,

And may thy fears fulfil;

But think that we

Are but turn'd aside to sleep;

They who one another keepAlive, ne'er parted be.

John Donne

I used to dream of eyes so blue
And loving arms to hold me.
I used to dream of heroic knights
And how gracious they would be.

I used to dream of how I wouldn’t settle
For anything less than best.
I used to dream of how he would majestically
Lay all fears to rest.

I used to dream of fairy tales,
How wondrous would they be
I used to dream of story books
All patterned after me.

I used to dream of a lot of things,
But the moment I met you,
I immediately stopped dreaming,
Because all of my dreams came true.
Tina Cerruti

Liberation from our Deepest Fears

Fear is the worst enemy of mankind. Learning how to handle fear is critical to success in your life.
Our deepest fear isn’t that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond our measure, It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented or fabulous? Actually, who are we not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to manifest the Glory of God within us. It is not just in some of us;it is in everyone.
And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Nelson Mandela

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Joy of giving love

Don't be afraid to give someone your heart because it's the best feeling when you get theirs in return. Author unknown
Kindness in words creates confidence, Kindness in thinking creates profoundness, Kindness in giving creates love
Lao Tzu

Motivating Words of Martin Luther King

I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal."I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave-owners will be able to sit down together at a table of brotherhood.I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering with the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character.I have a dream today.I have a dream that one day the state of Alabama, whose governor's lips are presently dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, will be transformed into a situation where little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls and walk together as sisters and brothers.I have a dream today.I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.This is our hope.
28th 1963 motivating speech of Martin Luther King

Monday, December 29, 2008

Anger Management Tips and Quotes

Manage your anger and you can manage your happiness.

Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.
Mayo Clinic

Relaxation can be achieved by replacing your
angry thoughts or images with those that are peaceful and
tranquil. Use your imagination and let it take you to a
happier time in your life or a more peaceful setting. Allow
yourself to relive a proud moment from your childhood or
to visually experience the vacation of your dreams.
Whether you are hitting the game-winning home run in little
league or lying on the most beautiful beach in the world, it
is extremely difficult to feel angry while feeling so at peace.
Dr. Lyle Becourtney

Don't vent out your anger; this may seem a strange thing to say, as a decade ago, any psychiatrist would tell you keep a punching bag for beating up when you are angry. Modern research shows the more you practice a particular emotion, you are more likely to use it too, just like the age-old idiom "practice makes perfect". So, instead of venting out anger, concentrate on eliminating it completely by thinking of better, nicer things. Reminiscing about something you've truly enjoyed in the past will take you mind away from the current anger. Also, make use of the old method advising you to "count to ten". Except, without making a boring 1,2,3...give a twist to it, and count to make it fun, like "1-frosted cake, 2-frosted cakes...by concentrating on the counting, you'll let go you of your anger.
Trevor Johnson

Holding onto anger is like grasping onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned.
Buddha.

Once you’re aware of what types of things make you angry, you can start cutting some of these triggers out of your life. For example, if you find that you often get angry in the car when you’re in a hurry and slow traffic makes you late, you can work on reorganizing your schedule to find a few extra minutes to accommodate traffic. You can play music in your car to relax you, or use stress management techniques to calm your physiology.
Elizabeth Scott, M.S.

Recognizing angry feelings. The first step is to recognize the early warning signs of anger. For people who tend to blow up, the trick is to learn to feel the anger when it is simply irritation or frustration. Learning to recognize that something is bothering you early will help you to deal with it sooner, before you get so upset that you cannot manage your response. For people who repress their anger the trick is to recognize the anger before you store it away. Usually people who repress anger actually feel anger, but they label it as stress or sadness. It will be important to start to recognize that the uncomfortable feelings of muscle tightness or anxiety are really angry feelings.
Jbisonaroll

Dispassionate, such as giving the cold shoulder or phony smiles, looking cool, sitting on the fence while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse (to include overeating), oversleeping, not responding to other’s anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and make objects of participants, giving inordinate amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no feeling is passive anger.
Anonymous

It is important to maintain balance with your stress levels. Incorporate daily stress relief activities such as meditation and exercise to keep your stress levels regulated. Often when people are "too stressed" they become irritable and angry. Take time out for yourself and unwind... relax... do yourself and your family a favour.
Anonymous

First Love

The best smell in the world is that man that you love.
Jennifer Aniston

Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a mans last romance.
First love is dangerous only when it is also the last.
Author Unknown


How on Earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?

Albert Einstein

knowing each other

Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other. Joshua Liebman

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Positive Success Quotations

When you're determined to succeed no force can stop you. Read these famous success quotes.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
Albert Schweitzer

Success is never final. Failure is never fatal. Courage is what counts.
Sir Winston Churchill

Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.
Albert Einstein

Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.
Napoleon Hill

Footprints on the sands of time are not made by sitting down.
Mahatma Gandhi

Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.
Denis Waitley

It is time for us to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever, the one who recognizes the challenge and does something about it.
Vince Lombardi

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Edison

It is possible to fail in many ways...while to succeed is possible only in one way.
Aristotle

I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
Bill Cosby

Unless a man undertakes more than he possibly can do, he will never do all that he can.
Henry Drummond

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.
Abraham Lincoln

My mother drew a distinction between achievement and success. She said that 'achievement is the knowledge that you have studied and worked hard and done the best that is in you. Success is being praised by others, and that's nice, too, but not as important or satisfying. Always aim for achievement and forget about success.'
Helen Hayes

We never know how far reaching something we may think, say or do today will affect the lives of millions tomorrow.
BJ Palmer

What is True Love

Passion may be blind; but to say that love is, is a libel and a lie. Nothing is more sharp-sighted or sensitive than true love, in discerning, as by an instinct, the feelings of another.
W. H. Davis
Absence in love is like water upon fie; a little quickens, but much extinguishes it.
Hannah Moore
The motto of chivalry is also the motto of wisdom; to serve all, but love only one.
Honor de Balzac, famous French author

God wants us to laugh

I have always believed that God never gives a cross to bear larger than we can carry. ... No matter what, God wants us to be happy. He doesn't want us to be sad. Birds sing after a storm. Why shouldn't we?
Rose Kennedy (1890-1995)

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Jesus Christ's Sacrifice

A man who was completely innocent, offered himself as a sacrifice for the good of others, including his enemies, and became the ransom of the world. It was a perfect act.
Mahatma Gandhi on Jesus Christ

power of a kiss

A kiss can beautify souls hearts and thoughts.
Author Unknown

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Inspirational words of faith

Whether its singing you love or sports or writing, you've just got to have faith and belive you can do it...

Britney Spears, American Singer

Inspirational quotes from Ralph Waldo Emerson

To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all...that is genius...

A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the luster of the firmament of bards and sages.

Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Have Belief in Yourself Quotations

Believe in yourself and you'll succeed. Learn how to do it from these success quotes about self belief.

Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard, and there is nothing you cannot accomplish.
Brad Henry

The only force that can overcome an idea and a faith is another and better idea and faith, positively and fearlessly upheld.
Dorothy Thompson

You can be anything you want to be, if you only believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.
Napoleon Hill

Frequently remind yourself that God is with you, that He will never fail you, that you can count upon him. Say these words,"God is with me, helping me".
Norman Vincent Peale

We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.
Mariam Wright

No matter how steep the mountain - the Lord is going to climb it with you.Helen Steiner Rice
Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.
Cynthia Kersey

Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see.
William Newton Clark

You must have absolute faith in your own perceptions of truth. Never act in haste or hurry; be deliberated in everything; wait until you know the true way.
Wallace D Wattles

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.
Martin Luther King Junior

If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.
Bruce Lee, martial arts exponent and actor

One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.
Lucille Ball

There is no limit to the power of the human mind. The more concentrated it is, the more power is brought to bear on one point; that is the secret.
Swami Vivekananda

Good to Motivate You

When something “bad” happens, say to yourself, “That’s good!”
Adam Khan,

the first kiss

Away with your fictions of flimsy romance,
Those tissues of falsehood which Folly has wove; Give me the mild beam of the soul-breathing glance,
Or the rapture which dwells on the first kiss of love.
Ye rhymers, whose bosoms with fantasy glow,
Whose pastoral passions are made for the grove; From what blest inspiration your sonnets would flow,
Could you ever have tasted the first kiss of love.
If Apollo should e'er his assistance refuse,
Or the Nine be dispos'd from your service to rove, Invoke them no more, bid adieu to the Muse,
And try the effect, of the first kiss of love.
I hate you, ye cold compositions of art,
Though prudes may condemn me, and bigots reprove; I court the effusions that spring from the heart,
Which throbs, with delight, to the first kiss of love.
Your shepherds, your flocks, those fantastical themes,
Perhaps may amuse, yet they never can move: Arcadia displays but a region of dreams;
What are visions like these, to the first kiss of love?
Oh! cease to affirm that man, since his birth,
From Adam, till now, has with wretchedness strove; Some portion of Paradise still is on earth,
And Eden revives, in the first kiss of love.
When age chills the blood, when our pleasures are past—
For years fleet away with the wings of the dove— The dearest remembrance will still be the last,
Our sweetest memorial, the first kiss of love.
Lord Byron, poet

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Is your Child Lying or Stealing? Learn to Deal with It

Let’s get it straight right away. All children lie or steal at some point of time. Only the frequency may vary. Parents needn’t worry if the child lies, but must take care to explain that one must always speak the truth. And by doing that the child’s parents can find a solution to the actual problem.

Every child must be taught that to lie isn’t accepted behaviour. And if one wants to be loved and cared for, one must always speak the truth. Rigid rules and over expectant parents are often the cause for persistent lying in children. It’s very difficult indeed for a child to confirm to every rule. So whenever he flouts a rule, he resorts to lying fearing a reprimand by the disciplinarian father. So it undoes what a parent actually wants of the child.

Its wise for parents not to confront the child, “Don’t lie. Tell me why did you lie….. will you lie again”. That’s a typical reaction of an overanxious parent. Do not instill guilt in the child over small matters. His character hasn’t been damaged because he lied once or twice. And the same time don’t let the child feel it isn’t wrong. Encourage him to express his actual problem. And in earnest see the solution. Just make him feel it’d be a lot better if he didn’t repeat that.

Some parents may laugh over an incident where the child lies. That could be a tragedy. Do not send wrong signals. Above all, you don’t lie to each other or to the child over anything. Speak the truth. Remember, the truth frees us all.

Stealing
Just another common behaviour problem associated with slightly grown up children, say about seven years onwards. As children begin to grow up, letting go of the hem of the mother’s dress, they learn to be individuals with thoughts of their own. And things of their own. Picking up signals from those around, children begin to identify things as their own and somebody else’s. They develop a deep attachment for certain toys and definitely pride too.

It all starts with toys. Toys draw the admiration of friends and give endless joy. And hence, the occasional ‘stealing’ of a neighbor’s toy shouldn’t shock the parents. If ever they discover this they could politely hand it over. Cool your nerves. Don’t reprimand or spank the child. This is a normal thing that happens universally.

Let not the child feel he’s done a grave crime or broken one of your Ten Commandments. Be tactful in explaining that the toy belongs to the other child. And that he can play with it when they are together, but shouldn’t bring it home. Moreover, tell the child he too has a lot of toys and he could share it with friends. Although sharing isn’t a habit acquired easily. Slowly but persistently (and certainly not forcefully) the joy of sharing can be put across. But never ask a child to share something he isn’t letting go easily.

A child must first of all enjoy possession of his toys, before hi is willing to share. And as parents you must understand this.

In older children, stealing (let’s say of toys) may be creep in as a result of deprivation of the same at home. Or because that toy card, game , pen or ball is the cynosure of all kids in the neighborhood. The resulting envy may force the child to ‘steal’ the toy, at other times, older children do a ‘heroic act’ stealing chocolates or smaller items from shops,. This is more of a ‘gang act’ as several children go to the shop to buy and one of them ‘does the act’.

Don’t bring the roof down if your son is caught red-handed. You may have to call upon all your patience to handle this. Embarrassing problem. Gently tell the child that he could have always asked you if he needed that. And you cold have bought it. Put it across that its not accepted behaviour to do this. Tell the child you’ll be very happy if he didn’t repeat the mistake.

Chronic lying or cheating, however needs to be treated seriously. Probe deeply into causes and fix the problems at the start. Usually deep-seated anxieties could result in this, say child psychologists.

Points to ponder
Your child will learn a lot from your behaviour, choose how you want him to grow up.
Improving your personality has a bearing on the child
Set an example and the child will follow suit
Write down clearly how you’d want your son to be
At home
At work
At social life
Points to ponder
Character and values are vital to happiness in life
Attitude is key to success
Relationships are critical
Behaviour problems

Never forget that
a. Its unwise to confront the child with a behaviour problem.
b. First, confirm that he has made a mistake.
c. You must first follow the rules.
d. Threatening or spanking should be the last resort.
e. Rewarding good behaviour ensures repetition of the same.
f. Children love to please their parents
g. Love, care and understanding alone can help your child.
h. Degrading your son in front of other children will only worsen your problem.
i. Complaining to others will affect his self-esteem.

Monday, December 22, 2008

love in short

When you really want love you will find it waiting for you.
Oscar Wilde, author

If I could be anyone in the world, I would be me...in love with you.
Author unknown

Awakening - Buddha Quote

One of his students asked Buddha,
"Are you the messiah?"" No", answered Buddha.
"Then are you a healer?" "No", Buddha replied.
" Then are you a teacher?" the student persisted. "No, I am not a teacher."
"Then what are you?" asked the student, exasperated. "I am awake", Buddha replied.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Effective Communication in the Workplace

It's critical to communicate effectively at workplace. Just follow these tips to success.
I could say communication is key, but you still have to know when to shut up.
I might mention that you have to give to receive, but you also have to make sure to take time for yourself.
There is always looking at your SO as your best friend, but realizing you have other friends in the world.
You have to be flexible and open, but stand your ground.
You have to be in love with your SO, but realize that doesn't mean you will like them all the time.
You will need to lead by example and follow directions.
Always work hard at making things work in the relationship, and also be able to accept things running their course.
You can be angry or upset, but you have to understand why you really shouldn't be
You need to be read to make war in the morning, peace in the afternoon, love at night, and breakfast the next day.
Be able to balance the opposite, even when there is no equality to the balance.

Anonymous

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Never Give Up Quotes II

Never give up. Almost nothing works the first time it's attempted. Just because what you're doing does not seem to be working, doesn't mean it won't work. It just means that it might not work the way you're doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn't have an opportunity.
Bob Parsons, founder GoDaddy

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Alva Edison

No matter how hard you work for success, if your thought is saturated with the fear of failure, it will kill your efforts, neutralize your endeavors and make success impossible.
Baudjuin

Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown.
H.Ross Perot

Flops are a part of life's menu
and I've never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses.
Rosalind Russell

Never give in, never give in, never; never; never; never - in nothing, great or small, large or petty - never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense
Winston Churchill

Our achievements speak for themselves. What we have to keep track of are our failures, discouragements, and doubts. We tend to forget the past difficulties, the many false starts, and the painful groping. We see our past achievements as the end result of a clean forward thrust, and our present difficulties as signs of decline and decay.
Eric Hoffer

Perseverance is a great element of success. If you knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Life is not easy for any of us. We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
Marie Curie

Between you and every goal that you wish to achieve, there is a series of obstacles, and the bigger the goal, the bigger the obstacles. Your decision to be, have and do something out of the ordinary entails facing difficulties and challenges that are out of the ordinary as well. Sometimes your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay with it longer than anyone else.
Brian Tracy

NEVER GIVE UP AGAIN!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Blog Moved to Main Blog

This blog is being moved post by post to my other main blog
  • Inspirational Quotes
  • Short Never Give Up Quotes

    Short quotes on not giving up, good enough to lift your spirits early in the morning.

    Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
    Harriet Beecher Stowe

    Never, never, never give up.
    Winston Churchill

    Only those who dare to fail greatly can achieve greatly.
    Robert F. Kennedy

    Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.
    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
    Confucius

    You just can't beat the person who never gives up.
    Babe Ruth

    When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.
    Anonymous

    Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
    Samuel Beckett

    It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer.
    Albert Einstein

    Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.
    Bernadette Devlin

    More Motovational Quotes on not giving up
    Never Give Up Quotes


    Never Give Up Quotes II


    Never Give Up Quotes III



    NEVER GIVE UP AGAIN!




    Tuesday, December 16, 2008

    How Teachers should Partner with Parents?

    Research points out that students succeed academically, socially, at sports and work better if their parents were actively involved in the child’s progress at school. While most parents feel unwelcome at schools, they are also partly to blame. Let’s remember that the child is at home for nearly 16 hours a day and parents could make a big impact on the child’s environment. The involvement of parents is likely to have a larger impact on studies than family income or lifestyle.

    What should teachers do?
    1. Make contact with parents
    The more teachers get to know parents, the better their suggestion for the student’s improvement.

    2. Be positive
    Whenever parents get a call they are reluctant to come to school thinking its going to be another complaint session. Turn this around and say good things about children. Then parents will be willing to hear the wrong side of their children too.

    3. Give them the chance to speak
    Hear their opinions, fears, concerns and you’ll learn a lot about the child’s family environment.


    4. Organize regular meetings
    This ensures that parents are kept informed about the child’s activities.

    5. Send notes as often as possible
    Whether it’s the child’s activities, tests, projects, scores, meetings, forthcoming events, keep them posted.

    6. Give parenting tips
    Parents these days are under tremendous pressure to bring up children in a competitive world and they’ll need plenty of parenting guidance. This can be done in the form of informal discussions, seminar or newsletters.

    7. Equip parents to handle studies.
    Helping the parents know what skills are required to support studies at home makes for improved grades.

    8. Create a resource centre
    Ask parents to come over and share resources such as skills for better parenting, CDs, Cassettes, library, seminars, Parent Teacher Association meetings, expert talks on family values etc.

    Sunday, December 14, 2008

    Xmas Poems

    Famous christmas poems, xmas sayings and christian poems to share with family and friends this season.
    At Christmas I no more desire a rose
    Than wish a snow in
    May's newfangled mirth;
    But life of each thing that in season grows.
    William Shakespeare, Love's Labour's Lost

    The means to gain happiness
    is to throw out from oneself,
    like a spider,
    in all directions
    an adhesive web of love,
    and to catch in it
    all that comes.
    Leo Tolstoy

    Thursday, December 11, 2008

    Handy Guide to Manage Poor Eating Habits in Kids

    Patience and tact besides understanding poor eating habits is the only way out to manage kids who don’t eat well. Here’s a handy guide to managing them.

    Parents are generally at their wit’s end in dealing with a poor eater at home. But child care specialists point out that there is nothing to worry. Every child has an in-born mechanism that knows how much food the child needs. Children with feeding problems do not suffer from malnutrition, although this sounds contrary to logic. So how do you deal with a child who makes you stand on your head for eating a morsel of food.

    Eating should be fun
    Mealtime should be filled with pleasure, not pressure. When the family sits down for dinner, take utmost care not to urge children to eat more. Stay relaxed although your parental instincts may cause worry about the thin girl sitting next to you. The child tends to build up resistance to eating, when constantly urged by concerned parents. Relax and let the child have what he wants. Don’t bother if he eats more vegetables and less of rice, as long as she is eating something.

    Give what he wants
    Every kid has his favorites, and your child certainly likes some dishes more than others. Try giving him what he loves, preferably wholesome food. But, do not go overboard in taking too much pain to prepare the eats. Always serve less than his appetite to ensure that, like Oliver Twist, he asks for more. Stuffing too much onto his paste develops a bad taste towards food. Even if you want him to eat a little more just ask, “would you like to have a second helping of this”, in a matter of fact way. Not with too much concern, which children are quick to spot and exploit.

    Should the child be left alone to eat?
    You must be careful not to make any sudden changes in the eating habits. If it is the family practice to watch TV or play music at dinner so it must be. If everyone eats together it must continue, unless you can’t stand the sight of him eating just two teaspoonful of rice. Even then leaving the table should be done tactfully, so he doesn’t think that there is loss of parental love. Just leave him to eat as much as possible. Remember, if he is hungry he’ll seek food. It may actually take days or weeks for the rights appetite to surface, but you must be patient then.

    Feeding the child
    Upto the age of 12 months, it is ok. But between 12-18 months attempts, must be made to help the child eat on his own. Make him feel it’s a privilege for a grown up child. Now and then the child may refuse to eat, forcing you to feed him. But do not give in easily. Try telling him, “I don’t think you’re hungry, why don’t you eat a little later”. Again, reiterate. You will need to sum all the reserve of patience deep inside you. Praise him a little for being on his own.

    Once you begin to worry and relapse into feeding him, you will find it doubly difficult to make him eat on his own. A word of caution. A child’s obstinance generally outlasts the parent’s. You‘ll be pushed to the verge of tears often.

    No meal deals
    “Son, you won’t get your apple until you’ve finished cleaning your plate”, is a classic warning to children. But, it actually builds more disgust for eating than ever before. Threatening may temporarily work, but fails miserably in the long run.

    “One mouthful for your sister, one for your grandma and one for your friend,” is another pitiable technique of over-concerned parents. Unless the child’s natural appetite is awakened, this will not bring the desired result. The child may eat a little more but it builds up resistance against food. And it is certainly not worth the trouble.

    “You are my darling child, eat just a little more…. Just this much”, is another wrong strategy. The moment you turn meek, the child understands your weakness. Amazingly such children will refuse to eat and you will be breaking your head against the wall.

    I’ll take you to Sam’s house, if you finish your plate or I’ll buy you chococates when you’re through”, is found to fail, for you’ll soon find yourself buying everything on earth just to make her eat. In the bargain you’d be doing just the opposite of what you wanted to achieve. Since he’ll never begin to eat well and his natural appetite will be killed.

    Tuesday, December 9, 2008

    Christmas Quotes, Inspirational Xmas Songs, Merry Christmas Greetings

    Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.
    Norman Vincent Peale
    Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.
    Dale Evans
    One of the nice things about Christmas is that you can make people forget the past with a present
    Anonymous
    What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.
    Agnes M. Pharo
    It is Christmas in the heart that puts Christmas in the air.
    W. T. Ellis
    Christmas is a time when you get homesick - even when you're home.
    Carol Nelso
    The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.
    Burton Hillis
    Christmas--that magic blanket that wraps itself about us, that something so intangible that it is like a fragrance. It may weave a spell of nostalgia. Christmas may be a day of feasting, or of prayer, but always it will be a day of remembrance--a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved.
    Augusta E. Rundel
    Let's dance and sing and make good cheer, For Christmas comes but once a year.
    Sir George Alexander Macfarren
    Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exists, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy.
    Charles Diana
    Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.
    Hamilton Wright Mabie (1845-1916), American author
    Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves.
    Eric Sevareid (1912-1992), American newscaster
    I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.
    Charles Dickens
    Christmas! 'Tis the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial fire of charity in the heart.
    Washington Irwing
    Christmas is a day of meaning and traditions, a special day spent in the warm circle of family and friends."
    Margaret Thatcher, former british PM
    Christmas Eve was a night of song that wrapped itself about you like a shawl. But it warmed more than your body. It warmed your heart...filled it, too, with melody that would last forever." Bess Streeter Aldrich (1881-1954), American author, in the Song of Years
    At Christmas, all roads lead home.
    Marjorie Holmes, American writer
    Happy, happy Christmas, that can win us back to the delusions of our childhood days, recall to the old man the pleasures of his youth, and transport the traveler back to his own fireside and quiet home!
    Charles Dickens
    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben, Author, Hundred Dollar Holiday: The Case For a More Joyful Christmas
    Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.
    Oren Arnold
    From Home to home, and heart to heart, from one place to another. The warmth and joy of Christmas, brings us closer to each other.
    Emily Matthews
    I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month. Harlan Miller
    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben
    This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone.
    Taylor Caldwell (1900-1985), English novelist.
    There's more, much more, to Christmas Than candlelight and cheer; It's the spirit of sweet friendship That brightens all year. It's thoughtfulness and kindness, It's hope reborn again, For peace, for understanding, And for goodwill to men!
    Anonymous
    Never worry about the size of your Christmas tree. In the eyes of children, they are all 30 feet tall.
    Larry Wilde
    Christmas is the one time of year when people of all religions come together to worship Jesus Christ.
    Bart Simpson
    I am not alone at all, I thought. I was never alone at all. And that, of course, is the message of Christmas. We are never alone. Not when the night is darkest, the wind coldest, the world seemingly most indifferent. For this is still the time God chooses.
    Taylor Caldwell
    Let us keep Christmas beautiful Without a thought of greed, That it might live forevermore To fill our every need, That it shall not be just a day, But last a lifetime through, The miracle of Christmastime That brings God close to you
    Ann Schultz
    Christmas! The very word brings joy to our hearts. No matter how we may dread the rush, the long Christmas lists for gifts and cards to be bought and given--when Christmas Day comes there is still the same warm feeling we had as children, the same warmth that enfolds our hearts and our homes.
    Joan Winmill Brown, American author and editor.
    I heard the bells on Christmas Day; their old familiar carols play, and wild and sweet the word repeat of peace on earth, good-will to men!
    Henry Longfellow
    Let us remember that the Christmas heart is a giving heart, a wide open heart that thinks of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus stands as the most significant event in all history, because it has meant the pouring into a sick world of the healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of hearts for almost two thousand years... Underneath all the bulging bundles is this beating Christmas heart.
    George Mathhew Adams

    Sunday, December 7, 2008

    Joy of Helping Others

    The joy of brightening other lives, bearing each others' burdens, easing other's loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts becomes forus the magic of Christmas.
    W. C. Jones

    Learning from Heartbreaks

    Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want.
    Martha Beck

    Saturday, December 6, 2008

    Short Christmas Poems to Share

    Short Xmas Poetry for sharing joys during Christmas Festival.

    I heard the bells on Christmas Day
    Their old, familiar carols play,
    And wild and sweet
    The words repeat
    Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
    Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

    A Christmas candle is a lovely thing;
    It makes no noise at all,
    But softly gives itself away;
    While quite unselfish,
    it grows small.
    Eva K Logue

    What Do We Love About Christmas?
    What do we love about Christmas;
    Does our delight reside in things?
    Or are the feelings in our hearts
    The real gift that Christmas brings.

    It's seeing those we love,
    And sending Christmas cards, too,
    Appreciating people who bring us joy
    Special people just like you.
    Joanna Fuchs

    Peace on earth will come to stay,
    When we live Christmas every day
    Helen Steiner Rice

    Your friendship is a glowing ember
    Through the year; and each December
    From its warm and living spark
    We kindle flame against the dark
    And with its shining radiance light
    Our tree of faith on Christmas night.
    Thelma J. Lund

    I'm dreaming of a white Christmas,
    Just like the ones I used to know,
    Where the tree tops glisten
    And children listen
    To hear sleigh bells in the snow.
    Irving Berlin

    Christmas Fun
    The tempting gifts are tantalizing;
    About opening them, we are fantasizing.
    The holiday foods are appetizing;
    Our excitement and joy are growing and rising;
    Our hearts and minds are harmonizing;
    Jolly Christmas fun we're maximizing!
    Joanna Fuchs

    Christmas gift suggestions:
    To your enemy, forgiveness.
    To an opponent, tolerance.
    To a friend, your heart.
    To a customer, service.
    To all, charity.
    To every child, a good example.
    To yourself, respect.
    Oren Arnold

    A song was heard at Christmas
    To wake the midnight sky:
    A saviour's birth, and peace on earth,
    And praise to God on high.
    The angels sang at Christmas
    With all the hosts above,
    And still we sing the newborn King
    His glory and his love.
    Timothy Dudley Smith

    There's More to Christmas...
    There's more, much more to Christmas
    Than candle-light and cheer;
    It's the spirit of sweet friendship
    That brightens all the year;
    It's thoughtfulness and kindness,
    It's hope reborn again,
    For peace, for understanding
    And for goodwill to men!
    Anonymous

    From home to home,
    and heart to heart,
    from one place to another.
    The warmth and joy of Christmas,
    brings us closer to each other.
    Emily Matthews

    Christmas is forever, not for just one day,
    for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away
    like bells and lights and tinsel,
    in some box upon a shelf.
    The good you do for others
    is good you do yourself.
    Norman W. Brooks

    Thursday, December 4, 2008

    Inspirational Christmas Quotes

    Xmas is indeed inspiring. Get yourself energised with these lovely quotations.

    If I could wish a wish for you, it would be for peace and happiness not only now, but for the whole year through!
    Catherine Pulsifer

    Christmas Eve was a night of song that wrapped itself about you like a shawl. But it warmed more than your body. It warmed your heart...filled it, too, with melody that would last forever.
    Bess Streeter Aldrich (Song of Years)

    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben

    He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree.
    Roy L. Smith

    Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.
    Ruth Carter Stapleton

    Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone.
    Charles Schulz

    Were it not for the shepherds, there would have been no reception. And were it not for a group of stargazers, there would have been no gifts.
    Max Lucado

    Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves.
    Eric Sevareid

    Christmas is a bridge. We need bridges as the river of time flows past. Today's Christmas should mean creating happy hours for tomorrow and reliving those of yesterday.
    Gladys Tabor

    Best of all, Christmas means a spirit of love, a time when the love of God and the love of our fellow men should prevail over all hatred and bitterness, a time when our thoughts and deeds and the spirit of our lives manifest the presence of God.
    George F. McDougall

    Wednesday, December 3, 2008

    Happy Christmas Poem

    When Christmas bells are swinging above the fields of snow,
    We hear sweet voices ringing from lands of long ago,
    And etched on vacant places
    Are half-forgotten faces
    Of friends we used to cherish, and loves we used to know.
    Christmas Fancies, Poems of Power
    Before the ice is in the pools,
    Before the skaters go,
    Or any cheek at nightfall Is tarnished by the snow,
    Before the fields have finished,
    Before the Christmas tree,
    Wonder upon wonder
    Will arrive to me!
    Emily Dickinson

    Motivation and Success

    All of us have enough resources, called motivation, to scale the Mt Everest, fly solo across the Atlantic, win the Tour De France or become another Bill Gates. It's just that we don't dig deep enough to call up those reserves. Try it and you'll be surprised by what you can achieve.
    Forget about will power. Become a self motivation expert! Listen to what Peter Murphy, personality coach, has to say about motivation.
    Instead write down one small action you have been putting off and answer the following questions and really put some thought into the answers:
    1 What am I missing out on of importance by not doing this? 2 What will I gain most by doing this? 3 Why is it important to me to get this done? 4 How is not doing this inconsistent with who I really am?
    Answer these and motivation will take you through the worst crisis and bring success.

    Patience is Key to Success

    With patience the mulbery leaf becomes a silk gown.
    Anonymous

    Positive Christmas Quotations I Xmas Quotations

    Happy Christmas quotes you will love to send family and friends. Be inspired by these positive xmas quotations.

    Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful. ~Norman Vincent Peale

    Are you willing to forget what you have done for other people, and to remember what other people have done for you ... to remember the weakness and loneliness of people who are growing old ... Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest ting in the world ... stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death... Then you can keep Christmas! But you can never keep it alone.
    - Henry van Dyke ("Keeping Christmas" in The Spirit of Christmas)

    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    - Bill McKibben

    What do you tell your children about Christmas? What do you understand about Christmas? Is Christmas all about giving and receiving presents? Or is it about Christmas trees and Santa Claus? Here are some beautiful Christmas quotes that express the meaning of Christmas.
    W. T. Ellis

    There's nothing sadder in this world than to awake Christmas morning and not be a child."
    ~ Erma Bombeck (1927-1996), American author and humorist.

    Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.
    - Oren Arnold

    Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest thing in the world - stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death - and that the blessed life which began in Bethlehem nineteen hundred years ago is the image and brightness of the Eternal Love? Then you can keep Christmas.
    - Henry Van Dyke

    Gifts of time and love are surely the basic ingredients of a truly merry Christmas."
    ~ Peg Bracken.

    What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.
    Agnes M Pharo

    Once again we find ourselves enmeshed in the Holiday Season, that very special time of year when we join with our loved ones in sharing centuries-old traditions such as trying to find a parking space at the mall. We traditionally do this in my family by driving around the parking lot until we see a shopper emerge from the mall, then we follow her, in very much the same spirit as the Three Wise Men, who 2,000 years ago followed a star, week after week, until it led them to a parking space.
    Dave Barry

    I have always thought of Christmas time, when it has come round, as a good time; a kind, forgiving, charitable time; the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut-up hearts freely, and to think of people below them as if they really were fellow passengers to the grave, and not another race of creatures bound on other journeys. ~Charles Dickens
    Let us remember that the Christmas heart is a giving heart, a wide–open–heart that thinks of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus stands as the most significant event in all history, because it has meant the pouring into a sick world the healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of hearts for almost two thousand years... Underneath all the bulging bundles is this beating Christmas heart.
    George Matthew Adams in "The Christmas Heart

    "Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.
    Author: Dr. Seuss

    Tuesday, December 2, 2008

    Do not Condemn Others

    Do not condemn the judgment of another because it differs from your own. You may both be wrong.
    Dandemis

    love of jesus

    There is but one love of Jesus, as there is but one person in the poor—Jesus. We take vows of chastity to love Christ with undivided love; to be able to love him with undivided love we take a vow of poverty which frees us from all material possessions, and with that freedom we can love him with undivided love, and from this vow of undivided love we surrender ourselves totally to him in the person who takes his place.
    Mother Teresa

    Sharing your joy

    This time of year means being kindto everyone we meet,To share a smile with strangerswe may pass along the street.Betty Black

    Monday, December 1, 2008

    Christmas Poem by Tennyson

    The time draws near the birth of Christ: The moon is hid; the night is still; The Christmas bells from hill to hill Answer each other in the mist.
    Lord Alfred Tennyson

    Overcome Failure Quotes

    A setback is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
    Henry Ford

    Saturday, November 29, 2008

    Christmas Joy comes Back to You

    Somehow, not only for Christmas But all the long year through, The joy that you give to others Is the joy that comes back to you. And the more you spend in blessing The poor and lonely and sad, The more of your heart's possessing Returns to you glad.
    John Greenleaf Whittier

    Imagination Quotes that are Positive

    Imagination is more important than knowledge.
    Albert Einstein

    Friday, November 28, 2008

    Value of Time and Happiness

    To realize the value of ONE YEAR Ask a student who has failed his exam. To realize the value of ONE MONTH Ask a mother who has given birth to a pre-mature baby. To realize the value of ONE WEEK Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of ONE DAY Ask a daily wage laborer who has ten kids to feed. To realize the value of ONE HOUR Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet or . . . To realize the value of ONE MINUTE Ask a person who has missed the train. To realize the value of ONE SECOND Ask a person who has survived an accident. To realize the value of ONE MILLI-SECOND Ask the person who has won a silver medal in Olympics. On Why you should value and treasure every moment of life and be happy about your success.
    Anonymous

    Let Every Day Be Christmas

    Christmas is forever, not for just one day, for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away like bells and lights and tinsel, in some box upon a shelf. The good you do for others is good you do yourself.
    Norman W. Brooks in Let Every Day Be Christmas

    Thursday, November 27, 2008

    Christmas is more than gifts, toys

    Christmas is more than trees and twinkling lights, more than toys and gifts and baubles of a hundred varieties. It is love. It is the love of the Son of God for all mankind. It reaches out beyond our power to comprehend. It is magnificent and beautiful."
    Season for Gratitude

    Lessons we Learn from Life

    Things I have learnt in Life...that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. ...that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up. ...that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. ...that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. ...that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. ...that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. ...that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would if they believed it. ...that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. ...that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. ...that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. ...that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. ...that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. ...that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to. ...that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. ...that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions. ...that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. ...that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. ...that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. ...that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process. ...that there are many ways of falling and staying in love. ...that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life....that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most. ...that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. ...that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help. ...that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains. ...that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us. ...that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. ...that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. ...that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used. ...that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
    author unknown

    Monday, November 24, 2008

    Martin Luther on Christmas Joy

    Good news from heaven the angels bring, Glad tidings to the earth they sing: To us this day a child is given, To crown us with the joy of heaven.
    Martin Luther

    John F Kennedy on Democracy

    Democracy is a difficult kind of government. It requires the highest qualities of self-discipline, restraint, a willingness to make commitments and sacrifices for the general interest, and also it requires knowledge.
    John F Kennedy

    Sunday, November 23, 2008

    Never Lose Hope

    We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.
    Martin Luther King, Jr

    Practical tips to manage your time better

    Teachers need to manage their activities better. Practical tips to make teachers perform effectively at school.

    This is actually a misnomer. You don’t manage time, you only manage your activities. Time is fixed. There are 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in a minute. You can’t change that, can you?

    One has to organize one’s activities, schedule the priorities and execute t hem. This way one can be effective, to say the least.

    Time management theory has evolved over hundreds of years. The earliest beings went by the sun and the shadows. It looks thousands of years to arrive at a scientific concept of time. The first generation of time management led to notes and checklists. Whatever was needed to be done, or avoided, was written down on bits of paper. This led to a bit of control over our time. Each time someone finished a task, it would be struck off from the list. And of course there was a little thrill of accomplishment in that. But this was on a very short term basis.

    The second generation theory led to diaries, appointment books, to do lists and calculators. This helped plan for the next day. The immediate future was brought within control. The subsequent generation resulted in a lot of thoughtful planning, scheduling, prioritizing, comparing relative values of two tasks, goal-setting and short and long-term achievements. While this lead to greater effectiveness, it has its disadvantages. This leaves nothing to spontaneity. It didn’t account for the unexpected, the momentary and the unscheduled. It talked about immediate crisis, need of the hour and priorities.

    Instead of being conditioned by time, fourth generation ideas focused greatly on long term goals building relationships of lasting values, planning for the future, recognizing opportunities recreation and the like.
    This module allows us to transform our personality, spend time, planning, organizing and prioritizing. If you don’t take time to plan, you’re planning to fail. It also pushed us to set and achieve goals in a reasonable time frame you learn to do the right thing, instead of focusing on doing things right. Further, it allows time for distractions, interruptions and helps use the best time for your priorities. 80% of the reward comes from 20% of the work (Pareto Principle) so we learn to prioritize and do that 20% work which will fetch us 80% reward.

    Let us take your total active time per day and fit it in a time management matrix to identify where we need to concentrate to succeed.
    1. Prayer Assembly
    2. Teaching
    3. Break
    4. Getting child ready to school
    5. Breakfast
    6. Traffic Enroute
    7. Counselling
    8. Reading good books
    9. Gossip
    10. Dinner/TV
    11. Relaxing
    12. Guests
    13. Time with husband/wife
    14. Attending telephone walls

    URGENT NOT URGENT
    2
    4 6 I
    5
    1 7
    3 8 II
    11 11
    12
    13 III
    14
    9 1V

    The first quadrant activities are all important and urgent. It can’t be postponed. Teaching, getting child ready to school and encountering traffic whether by bus or two wheeler – well, they have to be done immediately.
    The third quadrant deals with the unimportant but urgent tasks. Attending to guests, husband and telephone calls. Attending to guests, husband and telephone calls. Can’t say ‘no’ to them. The last quadrant is neither important nor urgent.

    The II quadrant is actually the most important if we have to be effective, be successful and happy in life. Unfortunately, quadrant activities are the lowest on our priority. Building relationship of lasting value, strengthening our character, helping others and entertaining ourselves and the family all leave lasting impact on our physical and emotional lives. But, we seldom care.

    If only we schedule priorities better, do more quadrant IV activities, we will be a different person tomorrow.

    Saturday, November 22, 2008

    love of jesus

    There is but one love of Jesus, as there is but one person in the poor—Jesus. We take vows of chastity to love Christ with undivided love; to be able to love him with undivided love we take a vow of poverty which frees us from all material possessions, and with that freedom we can love him with undivided love, and from this vow of undivided love we surrender ourselves totally to him in the person who takes his place.
    Mother Teresa

    Mark Twain Quotes Quotations

    Some men worship rank, some worship heroes, some worship power, some worship God, & over these ideals they dispute & cannot unite--but they all worship money. Mark Twain's Notebook

    Friday, November 21, 2008

    powerful dreams make success

    Argue for your limitations and sure enough they are yours. Richard Bach, author of Illusions

    christmas quotes, xmas sayings

    Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.
    Dale Evans

    Christmas is a time when you get homesick - even when you're home.
    Carol Nelso

    The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.
    Burton Hillis

    Christmas is a day of meaning and traditions, a special day spent in the warm circle of family and friends.
    Margaret Thatcher, former british PM

    Thursday, November 20, 2008

    remembering xmas day

    Let Us Keep Christmas Whatever else be lost among the years, Let us keep Christmas still a shining thing; Whatever doubts assail us, or what fears, Let us hold close one day, remembering It's poignant meaning for the hearts of men. Let us get back our childlike faith again.
    Grace Noll Cromwell

    funny fashion quote

    Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.Oscar Wilde

    Wednesday, November 19, 2008

    Savior of the nations Jesus

    Savior of the nations, come, Show yourself, the virgin’s son. Fill with wonder all the earth, That our God chose such a birth.
    Not by human power or seed Did the woman’s womb conceive; Only by the Spirit’s breath Was the Word of God made flesh.
    Mary then was found with child, Still a virgin, chaste and mild, God had favored her with grace To receive the Prince of Peace.
    Christ laid down his majesty, Passed through dark Gethsemane, Though he left his Father’s home, Christ now sits on God’s own throne.
    Since the star at Bethlehem Brought new light to earth again, May our faith shine bright each day; Faithful God, keep sin away.
    Christ in glory, intercede For your creatures’ suffering need. Let your resurrecting power Soon complete the victory hour.
    Praise to you, O Lord, we sing. Praise to Christ, our newborn King! With the Father, Spirit, one, Let your lasting kingdom come.

    Love means giving

    You never lose by loving, you lose by holding back.
    Author Unknown

    christ our saviour

    God rest you merry, gentlemen, Let nothing you dismay, For Jesus Christ, our Saviour, Was born upon this day, To save us all from Satan's power When we were gone astray. O tidings of comfort and joy! For Jesus Christ, our Saviour, Was born on Christmas Day. Dinah Maria Mulock Craik in the God Rest You Merry, Gentlemen

    Quotable quote on imagination

    Imagination is more important than knowledge. Albert Einstein

    song of christmas

    The heart of the jewel burns lustrous and fair And its soul full of music breaks the air, When the song of angels is sung. Phillips Brooks

    Christianity on love

    Christianity has done a great deal for love by making a sin of it
    Anatole France

    Monday, November 17, 2008

    christmas poems, christmas songs, quotes, xmas sayings, christian poems

    feel youngDivine inspiration
    There is a deity within us who breathes that divine is fire by which we are animated. Ovid
    feel young
    You can't help but get older, but you don't have to get old.
    George Burns
    christmas poems, christmas songs, quotes, xmas sayings, christian poems
    Cute Christmas Poems that are memorable to be shared with family and friends this season.
    Do all the good you can, By all the means you can, In all the ways you can, In all the places you can, At all the times you can! John Wesley
    At Christmas I no more desire a rose Than wish a snow in May's newfangled mirth; But life of each thing that in season grows. William Shakespeare, Love's Labour's Lost
    The means to gain happiness is to throw out from oneself, like a spider, in all directions an adhesive web of love, and to catch in it all that comes. LeoTolstoy
    A little child a shining star a stable rude, the door ajar. Yet in that place so crude, forlorn, The Hope of all the world was born. Anonymous
    Ah, dearest Jesus, Holy Child, Make thee bed, soft, undefiled Within my heart, that it may be A quiet chamber, kept for Thee. My heart for very joy does leap My lips no more can silence keep, I must sing with joyful tongue That sweetest ancient cradle song. Gilbert Keith Chesterton
    And the angel said unto them, "Fear not! For, behold, I bring you tidings of great joy, Which shall be to all people. "For unto you is born this day in the city of David A Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you: Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, Lying in a manger. -St. Luke ii. 10-12
    Love came down at Christmas, Love all lovely, Love Divine; Love was born at Christmas; Star and angels gave the sign. Christina Rossetti
    Good news from heaven the angels bring, Glad tidings to the earth they sing: To us this day a child is given, To crown us with the joy of heaven. Martin Luther
    Born in a manger at Christmas, as a gift from the father above, an infant whose name was called Jesus, brought mankind the gift of God's love. Helen Steiner Rice
    The time draws near the birth of Christ; The moon is hid; the night is still; The Christmas bells from hill to hill Answer each other in the mist. Alfred Lord Tennyson "In Memoriam"
    I've seen the face of Jesus... It was a wondrous sight! Oh, glorious face of beauty, oh gentle touch of care; If here it is so blessed, what will it be up there? W Spencer Walton
    It's the most wonderful time of the year. There'll be much mistletoeing And hearts will be glowing, When loved ones are near. It's the most wonderful time of the year. Eddie Pola & George Wyle, It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year
    A Christmas Prayer
    Loving Father, help us to remember the birth of Jesus, that we may share in the song of the angels, the gladness of the shepherds, and the worship of the wise men. Close the door of hate and open the door of love all over the world. Let kindness come with every gift and good desires with every greeting. Deliver us from evil by the blessing which Christ brings, and teach us to be merry with clear hearts. May the Christmas morning make us happy to be Thy children, and the Christmas evening bring us to our beds with grateful thoughts, forgiving and forgiven, for Jesus' sake. Amen! Robert Louis Stevenson
    Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things will be yours. Anonymous
    Roses are reddish Violets are bluish If it weren't for Christmas We'd all be Jewish. Benny Hill
    A Christmas Blessing During this Christmas season, May you be blessed With the spirit of the season, which is peace, The gladness of the season, which is hope, And the heart of the season, which is love
    Somehow, not only for Christmas But all the long year through, The joy that you give to others Is the joy that comes back to you. And the more you spend in blessing The poor and lonely and sad, The more of your heart's possessing Returns to you glad. John Greenleaf Whittier
    Be merry all, be merry all, With holly dress the festive hall; Prepare the song, the feast, the ball, To welcome merry Christmas. William Robert Spencer
    O Father may that Holy Star Grow every year more bright, And send its glorious beams afar To fill the world with light. William Cullen Bryant
    "Somehow, not only for Christmas But all the long year through, The joy that you give to others Is the joy that comes back to you. And the more you spend in blessing The poor and lonely and sad, The more of your heart's possessing Returns to you glad." John Greenleaf Whittier
    If we think of our heart, rather than our purse, as the reservoir of our giving, we shall find it full all the time! David Dunn
    Time was with most of us, when Christmas Day, encircling all our limited world like a magic ring, left nothing out for us to miss or seek; bound together all our home enjoyments, affections, and hopes; grouped everything and everyone round the Christmas fire, and make the little picture shining in our bright young eyes, complete. Charles Dickens
    We thank you for this place in which we dwell, for the love that unites us, for the peace accorded us this day, for the hope with which we expect the morrow, for the work, the health, the food and bright skies which make our lives delightful for our friends in all parts of the earth. Robert Louis Stevenson
    Born in a stable, Cradled in a manger, In the world His hands have made, Born a stranger. Christine Georgina Rossetti
    England was merry England, when Old Christmas brought his sports again. 'Twas Christmas broach'd the mightiest ale; 'Twas Christmas told the merriest tale; A Christmas gambol oft could cheer The poor man's heart through half the year. Sir Walter Scott, Marmion (canto VI, introduction)
    Christmas is here: Winds whistle shrill, Icy and chill. Little care we; Little we fear Weather without, Sheltered about The Mahogany Tree. William Makepeace Thackeray in The Mahogany Tree
    Ring out ye crystal spheres! Once bless our human ears, If ye have power to touch our senses so; And let your silver chime Move in melodious time, And let the bass of Heaven's deep organ blow; And with your ninefold harmony Make up full consort to the angelic symphony. John Milton
    Sing hey! Sing hey! For Christmas Day; Twine mistletoe and holly. For a friendship glows In winter snows, And so let's all be jolly Anonumous
    I heard the bells on Christmas Day
    I heard the bells on Christmas Day Their old familiar carols play, And wild and sweet The words repeat Of peace on earth, good will to men!
    And thought how, as the day had come The belfries of all Christendom Had rolled along The unbroken song Of peace on earth, good will to men!
    Till, ringing, singing on its way, The world revolved from night to day, A voice, a chime, A chant sublime Of peace on earth, good will to men!
    Then from each black, accursed mouth The cannon thundered in the South, And with the sound The carols drowned Of peace on earth, good will to men!
    God rest ye, little children; let nothing you affright, For Jesus Christ, your Saviour, was born this happy night; Along the hills of Galilee the white flocks sleeping lay, When Christ, the Child of Nazareth, was born on Christmas Day Dinah Maria Mulock
    It was as if an earthquake rent The hearth-stones of a continent, And made forlorn The households born Of peace on earth, good will to men!
    And in despair I bowed my head; "There is no peace on earth," I said; "For hate is strong And mocks the song Of peace on earth, good will to men."
    Then pealed the bells more loud and deep. "God is not dead, nor doth he sleep! The wrong shall fail, The right prevail, With peace on earth, good will to men!" HW Longfellow
    And is it true? And is it true, This most tremendous tale of all, Seen in a stained-glass window’s hue, A Baby in an ox’s stall? The Maker of the stars and sea Become a Child on earth for me? Sir John Betjeman
    Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house Not a creature was stirring-not even a mouse: The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there. Clement C. Moore
    Christmas is forever, not for just one day, for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away like bells and lights and tinsel, in some box upon a shelf. The good you do for others is good you do yourself. Norman W. Brooks, "Let Every Day Be Christmas"
    "Hark the herald angels sing, Glory to the new-born king." Peace on earth, and mercy mild, God and sinners reconciled.! Charles Wesley (1), Christmas Hymn
    'Twas Christmas broach'd the mightiest ale; 'Twas Christmas told the merriest tale; A Christmas gambol oft could cheer The poor man's heart through half the year. Sir Walter Scott in Marmion
    I love the Christmas-tide, and yet, I notice this, each year I live; I always like the gifts I get, But how I love the gifts I give! Carolyn Wells
    The Gift of Christmas
    Christmas is the one day of the year that carries real hope and promise for all mankind.
    It carries the torch of brotherhood.
    It is the one day in the year when most of us grow big of heart and broad of mind.
    It is the single day when most of us are as kind and as thoughtful of others as we know how to be;
    When most of us are as gracious and generous as we would like always to be;
    When the joy of home is more important than the profits of the office;
    When peoples of all races speak cheerfully to each other when they meet;
    When high and low wish each other well;
    And the one day when even enemies forgive and forget. Edgar Guest, The Gift of Christmas
    Oh! lovely voices of the sky Which hymned the Saviour's birth, Are ye not singing still on high, Ye that sang, "Peace on earth"? Felicia Hemans
    There is no name so sweet on earth, no name so sweet in heaven, The name, before His wondrous birth, to Christ the Savior given. George W. Bethune
    What can I give Him, Poor as I am? If I were a shepherd I would bring a lamb. If I were a Wise Man I would do my part. Yet what can I give Him? I give Him my heart. Christina Rossetti
    Let Us Keep Christmas Whatever else be lost among the years, Let us keep Christmas still a shining thing; Whatever doubts assail us, or what fears, Let us hold close one day, remembering It's poignant meaning for the hearts of men. Let us get back our childlike faith again. Grace Noll Crowell
    Let Christmas not become a thing Merely of merchant's trafficking, Of tinsel, bell and holly wreath And surface pleasure, but beneath The childish glamour, let us find Nourishment for soul and mind. Let us follow kinder ways Through our teeming human maze, And help the age of peace to come From a Dreamer's martyrdom. Madeline Morse
    'Tis blessed to bestow, and yet, Could we bestow the gifts we get, And keep the ones we give away, How happy were our Christmas day! Carolyn Wells
    In the old days, it was not called the Holiday Season; the Christians called it 'Christmas' and went to church; the Jews called it 'Hanukka' and went to synagogue; the atheists went to parties and drank. People passing each other on the street would say 'Merry Christmas!' or 'Happy Hanukka!' or (to the atheists) 'Look out for the wall!'" Dave Barry in Christmas Shopping: A Survivor's Guide
    Happy, happy Christmas, that can win us back to the delusions of our childhood days, recall to the old man the pleasures of his youth, and transport the traveler back to his own fireside and quiet home! Charles Dickens
    Dear Lord, I've been asked, nay commanded, to thank Thee for the Christmas turkey before us... a turkey which was no doubt a lively, intelligent bird... a social being... capable of actual affection... nuzzling its young with almost human- like compassion. Anyway, it's dead and we're gonna eat it. Please give our respects to its family... Berke Breathed
    christmas gifts to buy Do give books - religious or otherwise - for Christmas. They're never fattening, seldom sinful, and permanently personal. Lenore Hershey
    Bless us Lord, this Christmas, with quietness of mind; Teach us to be patient and always to be kind. Helen Steiner Rice
    And she will bear a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for it is He who will save His people from their sins Matthew 1:21

    feel young

    You can't help but get older, but you don't have to get old.
    George Burns

    Divine inspiration

    There is a deity within us who breathes that divine is fire by which we are animated.

    Ovid

    Saturday, November 15, 2008

    How to deal with your talented child

    Very often we are confused about how to handle our talented child. Do we answer all his curiosities. Tell the child to shut up and do his studies. Here are expert from someone who has dealt with exceptional children and counseled parents.

    Years ago a middle-aged man and his nephew were playing chess out in the verandah in Phillipines. Having arrived at a complicated middle game, there was a lot of thinking to do. A little boy of seven who was playing in the garden breezed in, moved a piece and darted into the house. The move led to a checkmate very soon. Spotting this prodigious talent, his parents put him in a chess club and lo! he went on to become Viswanathan Anand, the World Chess Champion.

    But, not all such gifted children are lucky. Two decades ago when I was in the 7th standard, a classmate exhibited rare knowledge in physics. He talked about liquid fuel in rockets, life on Mars and nuclear reaction; we were all in awe of him. Initially, the Physics teacher tried to answer his questions, but soon he ran of patience, or rather answers. “Don’t act funny. Questions outside the portions will be dealt with separately. Come see me in the staff room,” screamed the teacher. The last I heard of him was he worked as a marketing executive. If only he had a more understanding teacher and parents, I’m sure he would have advanced much further.

    Dealing with a gifted child is downright difficult to keep pace with him and soon he’ll get bored with the class. Once you’ve spotted him, its best to handle him with care and a little more attention. The talent needs to be nurtured. Get in touch with an educational psychologist to assess his abilities. Give him assignments that are a little more challenging. Provide a stimulating ambience to open the floodgates of talent.

    Excellence could be in academics, sports or arts. And most talents have to be spotted. And unearthed. Like what coaches do to sports persons. One in a 1000 children could be gifted. And most of them are like uncut diamonds. It needs a smart parent, a caring teacher or a vigilant coach to see that trace of genius and uncover it to the world.

    Let’s not forget that these children need to be loved and treated like normal children. They need to be with children of the same age, unless absolutely necessary. Though a child may display exceptional talent in arts or sports, normal educational is a must. Only that the school authorities have to spend more time coaching his special abilities.

    Interact with parents and help them cope up with the gifted child. Ensure that they provide an emotionally stable atmosphere for the child to grow, get him enrolled in clubs or associations, which might benefit him. Praise him where necessary but don’t let him turn arrogant or overbearing with other kids because of the special talent or treatment.

    Look for sponsors and scholarships to enhance his progress. Let him learn to take disappointments with ease. Make him a winner. He is after all your student

    Dealing with the talented child
    Points to ponder
    1. Spot the talents and nurture it.
    2. Give individual attention.
    3. Make him feel special, but don’t overdo it
    4. Interact with his parents.
    5. Get professional help.

    Caution
    1. Don’t fuss over him
    2. Don’t disturb the equilibrium in the class
    3. Talent is no excuse for not doing homework or bunking classes
    4. Treat him like any other boy while at class
    5. Don’t forget to stress on studies despite talent in sports

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    Cute Short Christmas Quotes

    I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.
    Charles Dickens

    Christmas is the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial flame of charity in the heart.
    Washington Irving

    This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone.
    Taylor Caldwell

    Christmas is the day that holds all time together.
    Alexander Smith

    The best Christmas trees come very close to exceeding nature.
    Andy Rooney

    Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.
    Norman Vincent Peale

    Christmas Day is a day of joy and charity. May God make you very rich in both.
    Phillips Brooks

    Sunday, November 9, 2008

    Planning Holiday Travel with Kids

    Holidaying and kids are a contradiction. Any exasperated parent would vouch for this. You must plan your travel carefully, if you have kids under three, or you’ll end up wondering if home wasn’t better.

    No doubt babies love to travel since the constant motion soothes them to sleep. But travels don’t mean mobility all the time, it also means noisy railway stations, overcrowded buses and boring airplanes.

    When you pack your bags, put nappies, clothes to change, towels, shoes and socks, a small bed, comforting toys and a dummy, if your child is used to one.

    Medicines are a must, for loose motion, cold and fever. Rattles. Pluck and fix toys, cards, colour pencils, magic slates and building blocks do away the boredom.

    Soaps, creams, mugs and water bottles will take care of the little one’s hygiene.

    Biscuits, snacks and a chocolate or two to nibble. Since food is a good way of putting a child to sleep, sometimes.

    Travel by Road
    Travelling by road is uncomfortable for children, since their movement is restricted, they are bound to get bored soon and will begin to let a scream now and then, fling toys on the old lady in front or put one under your car seat.

    Boredom can be handled by telling him stories, playing games or showing him some picture books.
    Food is a nice way to keep him occupied and finally put him to sleep. Beware not to overdo it.

    Counting animals, cars or trees you sight from the window is an interesting way of keeping children engaged.
    When you break your journey even for half an hour, get down from your vehicle and let the children run up end down. Freedom to move about after a journey is crucial to keep a child excited about traveling. Else by the time your vehicle has started your child will enquire “if we have arrived.”

    Travel by Rail
    Train journeys are always fascinating for kids and adults alike. The hills, rivers, animals, sunsets and workers in farms…………… well there’s so much to see. And the freedom to stir out of your seats. The easily accessible loos.

    A bored up kid could be taken to the pantry and back. And he’ll have enough uncles and aunts to play with. Picture books and magnetic toys keep one engaged on trains. Rhymes and naming games are permitted too.
    Pack plenty of clothes to change since he’ll insist on squatting on the floor or tiny ones may wet often. While train journeys may not be tiresome, children will definitely feel thirsty. So you’ll need a bottle or two of water, besides fruit juices.

    Holiday by Air
    Children find the noise during take off and landing unbearable. And there’s hardly anything to see, even if you get a window seat. Good cabin crew may help sometimes. But getting strapped onto your seat may be the worst thing for a child. If you’re lucky to find an empty seat then you can keep him occupied with toys, books and food. Collapsible cots will prove handy, if only the airline allows you to use it.

    Booking Hotels
    Book with the best travel guys and hotels, but always carry the child’s bedding and warm clothes. As for food, keep out fat and oily stuff. Steamed food is the best, with plenty of fruits.
    Don’t forget a sling, which can be comfortably strapped to your shoulders with the child looking over your shoulders or facing the road behind.

    And the next time you travel with a child, we’re sure you’re quite prepared

    Travelling with kids
    Points to ponder
    1. Travelling is educative
    2. Help children admire the culture and heritage of this country.
    3. Encourage them to explore the world.
    4. Arm yourself with guides, maps and travel literature.
    5. Explain the beauty of each city and its people.

    Don’t
    1. Get out without reserving your rooms.
    2. Forget to enough knowledge of the weather, what to see and what to do.
    3. Miss your daily medicine, if any.
    4. Go out if you don’t have enough money.
    5. Let children get out of your sight.

    Wednesday, September 24, 2008

    Quotes on Hope

    Hope has been the prime reason that man has survived all these years. But, for the thought of "my dreams will come true some day," we wouldn't be here in this Digital Age. "Hope is the sustenance of Life," as Eric Fromm, US psychologist, said. We sleep with the thought that we'll wake up next morning. We welcome dusk with the hope that the sun will rise tomorrow. Hope is the lifeline for humans in despair.

    Hope is like a bird that senses dawn and carefully starts to sing while it is still dark.
    Anonymous

    Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
    Dale Carnegie

    Our past is not our potential.
    Unknown

    Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory.
    Norman Vincent Peale

    Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.
    Anonymous

    Love lives on hope, and dies when hope is dead; It is a flame which sinks for lack of fuel.
    Pierre Corneille

    He who does not hope to win has already lost.
    Jose Joaquin Olmedo

    The miserable have no other medicine But only hope.
    William Shakespeare

    Know then, whatever cheerful and sereneSupports the mind, supports the body too: Hence, the most vital movement mortals feelIs hope, the balm and lifeblood of the soul.
    John Armstrong, Art of Preserving Health

    Expect to have hope rekindled. Expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways. The dry seasons in life do not last. The spring rains will come again Sarah Ban Breathnach Simple Abundance: If it were not for hopes, the heart would break.
    Thomas Fuller

    Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.
    Norman Vincent Peale

    For hope is but the dream of those that wake.
    Matthew Prior

    But what is Hope? Nothing but the paint on the face of Existence; the least touch of truth rubs it off, and then we see what a hollow-cheeked harlot we have got hold of.
    Lord Byron, English poet

    If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream.
    Martin Luther King

    If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
    If I am for myself only, what am I?
    If not now, when?
    Eric Fromm, psychologist

    When the world says, "Give up,"Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
    Anonymous

    Hope Proverbs

    One who has health has hope, and one who has hope has everything.
    Arabic Proverb

    Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
    English Proverb

    Hope is the physician of each misery.
    Irish Proverb

    Hope dies last
    Mexican Proverb

    The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
    Winston Churchill, British Priminister

    Hope" is the thing with feathers –That perches in the soul –And sings the tune without the words –And never stops – at all
    Emily Dickinson, poet

    He who has never hoped can never despair.
    George Bernard Shaw, British Playwright in Caesar and Cleopatra

    Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.
    Corrie ten Boom

    Your hopes, dreams and aspirations are legitimate. They are trying to take you airborne, above the clouds, above the storms, if you only let them.
    William James

    Hope never abandons you, you abandon it.
    George Weinberg

    Wednesday, September 17, 2008

    Parenting Tips for Teaching Your Children Right from Wrong

    How often do we hear a child say, "Mummy Jennie is not giving me her toys, but when she comes home she plays with my toys." A child does seem to know rights and wrongs. This he actually learns by watching parents, elders, neighbours and relatives. And possibly television and movies.

    Teach 'em early
    Children must be taught morals from their formative years when much of life's vital learning takes place. If parents take care to steady the child's values he will grow up straight. Else he'll become like the angled plant which can't be straightened later.

    Set examples
    The best way to teach children what's right and wrong is by practicing those values you want to instill. When you don't quarrel, get angry or hurl abuses, he knows that it's the approved behaviour. Let them learn from the way you behave with your spouse and others.

    Even if you are upset or in a mood to hurl abuses at your spouse, hold yourself when the child is around. Try postponing the issue and dealing with it when your child has gone out to play. That way you'll ensure that the child understands morals when you talk about them.

    Practice what you preach
    One day when a friend of mine admonished her child for walking into the house with her slippers on, the child shot back saying, "But even you came inside yesterday with your slippers on." Needless to say the mother was stunned to silence, more so because I was there. This happens to most parents. Remember, children don't forget certain things. If you say something and act to the contrary, the child believes that there's isn't much of a problem doing the same.
    Be consistent
    Sometimes when parents are busy they tend to overlook a fault in the child. Parents must be consistent with the values that they seek to inculcate in their children. One parent admonishing the child for a wrong and the other condoning it for the same does a lot of damage to the child's psychology.
    Worse still is another common mistake of parents. To argue with each other when a child is spanked by one of them. The child will be perplexed not knowing which is right and which is wrong.

    Reward good behaviour
    "That's like a good boy. Well done!" Well, this is exactly what the child needs. Little praises when he is on the right side. Children tend to learn faster when there's pleasure attached to it. When you reward him you not only boost his confidence, but also subtly tell him that good behaviour makes him acceptable, loving to all around him. Every child loves to belong.

    At times you've got to be tough
    When I took my child to the family physician one day, my little one after the doctor's examination wanted to be picked up but I asked her to sit on the chair for sometime since I was listening to the doctor's advice. My daughter cried and sat on the floor yelling all the while. For a moment I intended to pick her up but the doctor was cool, "No.. don't…leave her there.. she'll soon learn that stubbornness doesn't pay… then she'll quietly come back to you". That was an important lesson I learnt. Don't give in to everything.

    Violence isn't the answer
    Spare the rod and spoil the child, you did read when you were young. But, remember, lashing the child for every little wrong only breeds contempt for you. The child could build such resentment inside that everything you say will be discounted. Worse still, the child may begin to think that violence is might. And that it's the way to dominate over others. And soon you'll find him threatening, bullying and picking up fights regularly. You need to be patient with kids, because they are kids, not adults.

    Stimulate their thoughts
    Whenever you tell them a story ask them a moral question that sets their minds ticking. For example, if you were narrating the story of the Hare and the Tortoise, ask them why the hare lost. Let them come up with their explanations. In the end tell them the true reason. And teach them that being slow and steady in everything you do ensures success.

    Teaching your children right from wrong
    The best to teach is to
    a. Set an example.
    b. Be consistent in your behaviour.
    c. Openly talk about values.
    d. Reward good behaviour.
    e. Use Characters in stories, movies and TV serials to drive home your point.
    f. Attach a pleasure to practicing good behaviour.
    g. Stop giving into everything.

    Tuesday, September 16, 2008

    Epitaph on Friendship

    Remember friends as you pass by,
    As you are now so once was I.
    As low as I you once must be,
    Prepare yourself and follow me.

    19th Century epitaph

    Monday, September 15, 2008

    The start of love

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,


    Shakespeare

    Sunday, September 14, 2008

    Cute Honeymoon Tip

    Go to a place where you're not going to be stressed, because a honeymoon itself can be a stressful thing. But the wonderful thing about a honeymoon is traveling with someone you love who you can share experiences with. Just don't go to a place where everything is too expensive...it'll put your husband in a bad mood.


    Diane von Furstenberg, Fashion Designer

    Motivational Words for Children

    How should I best talk to
    my daughter about this?
    I'd rather she never knew
    that such depravity
    existed – especially now,
    at 15! But, talk we had to
    do, and our conversation
    went quickly to the
    subject of good and evil,
    acknowledging that the
    human spirit can sink into
    evil using holocaust
    parallels.

    We Are The New Civilization.
    We are here.
    We are waking up now, out of the past, to dream a bigger dream.
    We are friends and equals.
    We are diverse and unique, and we’re united for something bigger than our differences.
    We believe in freedom and cooperation, abundance and harmony.
    We find our own guidance, and we discern our own truth.
    We go in many directions, and yet we refuse to disperse.
    We have many names. We speak many languages.
    WE are local. We are global.
    We are in all regions of the world. We’re everywhere in the air.
    We are universe being aware of itself. We are the wave of evolution.
    We are in every child’s eyes. We face the unknown with wonder and excitement.
    We are messengers from the future, living in the present.
    We come from silence, and we speak our truth.
    We cannot be quieted, because our voice is within everyone.
    We have no enemies. No boundaries can hold us.
    We respect the cycles and expressions of nature, because we are nature.
    We don’t play to win, we play to live and learn.
    We act out of inspiration, love and integrity.
    We explore, we discover, we feel, and we laugh.
    We are building a world that works for everyone.
    We endeavor to live our lives to the fullest potential.
    We are independent, self-sufficient and responsible.
    We relate to each other in peace, with compassion and respect, we unite in community.
    We celebrate the wholeness within and around us all.
    We dance to the rhythm of creation.
    We weave the threads of the new times.
    We are the new civilization.

    Annie B. Bond