Monday, March 20, 2006

5 Ways to Self Help.

1. Learn to Listen

I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant - Anonymous

Only the mind that listens can understand anything. Listening is not passive as most of us think. It means to let a message sink in, without being judgemental. Don't criticise. Don't comment. Let not your conditioning intefere with Understanding what you are hearing. Put off your filters. Let your intelligence take a break. Don't validate anything.

Listen with a Still, Calm Mind.

You'll hear the deeper meanings. You'll understand the Truth.

2. Understand Yourself
Go Inward. Look inside you. Just relax and let your thoughts come out. Don't try to comment, criticise or judge them. Your anger, greed, jealousy and envy must be understood by you. Only when you know the filth and mistakes inside can you change it. If you refuse that you are bad. Or Deny it. Then you can bnever be Happy.

3. Be in sync with Nature
You must understand the larger perspective of Life. We are designed to live with Nature. We depend on it for air, water, food etc. We can't go against it. Look at Katrina and Tsunami. Nature's fury is powerful and unstoppable. Love the flowers, plants and trees. Do what you can to protect and nurture it. Live in harmony with it. Don't destroy anything.

And you'll find the happiness. Remember, as a child, you were thrilled by the first sprout of the seed you sowed in the garden. A joy unexplained. Happiness in Harmony.

4. Love Unconditionally
The whole world seems to be doing this wrong. As children grow up, we ask them to do certain things. If they do, we shower love on them. If they don't, we scold them. We deny them our love. The teacher does it. The boss is no different. And the partner is the same too.Rejection. Scorn. Could shoulders. That's what people get when they don't follow the carrot and stick policy.

Do what I say. Do what I like. Any you'll be my best friend. You'll get my Love. But, conditional love works in the short term. Guess we can easily find the answer from our own experiences. Unconditional love to children, friends, partners and parents. That's the winning strategy. Try it and you won't regret.

5. Speak the Truth
When you speak the truth, you don't have to remember it. ~ Mark Twain, Author.
Truth is the foundation on which True Love is built. Lies and falseness can crush a romantic relationship. Sooner or later, the person is going to find out the truth and then the love bonds are gone - disappearing into the thin air.

When you're wrong or make a mistake, accept it. And the person will forgive you. Not just that. The bonds of Love grow stronger after that. And it's easy to speak the truth, in love or in friendship. As Mark Twain said, " When you speak the truth, you don't have to remember it."

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