Wednesday, December 31, 2008

You are Mine Love Poem

With soft still words I part
From cries within my heart
Energy soars from emptiness
Lost in thoughts of sweet caress
Pure Love your light surrounding me
Gives me peace of Samsara sea
As star pattern movements sway
Night's alight in love's array

Close your eyes and see
Inside you are all of me
I Know you are mine
Souls forever entwined
Breaths of you become my bliss
Nothing to hold, all to miss
Stopped in time with an Angel kiss
I am your all, in all of this

I love you so
As the wind driven snow
As the dawn's morning glow
You are love, all I know
As the moon's soft shine
As Earth's endless time
No reason or rhyme
I Know you are mine
Debbylyn and Barry

My lady's presence makes the roses red My lady's presence makes the roses red, Because to see her lips they blush for shame. The lily's leaves, for envy, pale became, And her white hands in them this envy bred. The marigold the leaves abroad doth spread, Because the sun's and her power is the same. The violet of purple colour came. Dyed in the blood she made my heart to shed. In brief: all flowers from her their virtue take; From her sweet breath their sweet smells do proceed; The living heat which her eyebeams doth make Warmeth the ground and quickeneth the seed. The rain, wherewith she watereth the flowers, Falls from mine eyes, which she dissolves in showers.

Henry Constable, poet

Sweetest Love, I do not go

Sweetest love, I do not go,

For weariness of thee,

Nor in hope the world can show

A fitter love for me;But since that

IMust die at last, 'tis best

To use myself in jest

Thus by feign'd deaths to die.

Yesternight the sun went hence,

And yet is here today;He hath no desire nor sense,

Nor half so short a way:Then fear not me,

But believe that I shall makeSpeedier journeys,

since I takeMore wings and spurs than he.

O how feeble is man's power,

That if good fortune fall,

Cannot add another hour,

Nor a lost hour recall!

But come bad chance,

And we join to'it our strength,

And we teach it art and length,

Itself o'er us to'advance.

When thou sigh'st, thou sigh'st not wind,

But sigh'st my soul away;

When thou weep'st, unkindly kind,

My life's blood doth decay.

It cannot be

That thou lov'st me, as thou say'st,

If in thine my life thou waste,

That art the best of me.

Let not thy divining heart

Forethink me any ill;

Destiny may take thy part,

And may thy fears fulfil;

But think that we

Are but turn'd aside to sleep;

They who one another keepAlive, ne'er parted be.

John Donne

I used to dream of eyes so blue
And loving arms to hold me.
I used to dream of heroic knights
And how gracious they would be.

I used to dream of how I wouldn’t settle
For anything less than best.
I used to dream of how he would majestically
Lay all fears to rest.

I used to dream of fairy tales,
How wondrous would they be
I used to dream of story books
All patterned after me.

I used to dream of a lot of things,
But the moment I met you,
I immediately stopped dreaming,
Because all of my dreams came true.
Tina Cerruti

Liberation from our Deepest Fears

Fear is the worst enemy of mankind. Learning how to handle fear is critical to success in your life.
Our deepest fear isn’t that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond our measure, It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented or fabulous? Actually, who are we not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to manifest the Glory of God within us. It is not just in some of us;it is in everyone.
And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Nelson Mandela

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Joy of giving love

Don't be afraid to give someone your heart because it's the best feeling when you get theirs in return. Author unknown
Kindness in words creates confidence, Kindness in thinking creates profoundness, Kindness in giving creates love
Lao Tzu

Motivating Words of Martin Luther King

I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal."I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave-owners will be able to sit down together at a table of brotherhood.I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering with the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character.I have a dream today.I have a dream that one day the state of Alabama, whose governor's lips are presently dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, will be transformed into a situation where little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls and walk together as sisters and brothers.I have a dream today.I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.This is our hope.
28th 1963 motivating speech of Martin Luther King

Monday, December 29, 2008

Anger Management Tips and Quotes

Manage your anger and you can manage your happiness.

Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.
Mayo Clinic

Relaxation can be achieved by replacing your
angry thoughts or images with those that are peaceful and
tranquil. Use your imagination and let it take you to a
happier time in your life or a more peaceful setting. Allow
yourself to relive a proud moment from your childhood or
to visually experience the vacation of your dreams.
Whether you are hitting the game-winning home run in little
league or lying on the most beautiful beach in the world, it
is extremely difficult to feel angry while feeling so at peace.
Dr. Lyle Becourtney

Don't vent out your anger; this may seem a strange thing to say, as a decade ago, any psychiatrist would tell you keep a punching bag for beating up when you are angry. Modern research shows the more you practice a particular emotion, you are more likely to use it too, just like the age-old idiom "practice makes perfect". So, instead of venting out anger, concentrate on eliminating it completely by thinking of better, nicer things. Reminiscing about something you've truly enjoyed in the past will take you mind away from the current anger. Also, make use of the old method advising you to "count to ten". Except, without making a boring 1,2,3...give a twist to it, and count to make it fun, like "1-frosted cake, 2-frosted concentrating on the counting, you'll let go you of your anger.
Trevor Johnson

Holding onto anger is like grasping onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned.

Once you’re aware of what types of things make you angry, you can start cutting some of these triggers out of your life. For example, if you find that you often get angry in the car when you’re in a hurry and slow traffic makes you late, you can work on reorganizing your schedule to find a few extra minutes to accommodate traffic. You can play music in your car to relax you, or use stress management techniques to calm your physiology.
Elizabeth Scott, M.S.

Recognizing angry feelings. The first step is to recognize the early warning signs of anger. For people who tend to blow up, the trick is to learn to feel the anger when it is simply irritation or frustration. Learning to recognize that something is bothering you early will help you to deal with it sooner, before you get so upset that you cannot manage your response. For people who repress their anger the trick is to recognize the anger before you store it away. Usually people who repress anger actually feel anger, but they label it as stress or sadness. It will be important to start to recognize that the uncomfortable feelings of muscle tightness or anxiety are really angry feelings.

Dispassionate, such as giving the cold shoulder or phony smiles, looking cool, sitting on the fence while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse (to include overeating), oversleeping, not responding to other’s anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and make objects of participants, giving inordinate amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no feeling is passive anger.

It is important to maintain balance with your stress levels. Incorporate daily stress relief activities such as meditation and exercise to keep your stress levels regulated. Often when people are "too stressed" they become irritable and angry. Take time out for yourself and unwind... relax... do yourself and your family a favour.

First Love

The best smell in the world is that man that you love.
Jennifer Aniston

Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a mans last romance.
First love is dangerous only when it is also the last.
Author Unknown

How on Earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?

Albert Einstein

knowing each other

Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other. Joshua Liebman

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Positive Success Quotations

When you're determined to succeed no force can stop you. Read these famous success quotes.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
Albert Schweitzer

Success is never final. Failure is never fatal. Courage is what counts.
Sir Winston Churchill

Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.
Albert Einstein

Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.
Napoleon Hill

Footprints on the sands of time are not made by sitting down.
Mahatma Gandhi

Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.
Denis Waitley

It is time for us to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever, the one who recognizes the challenge and does something about it.
Vince Lombardi

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Edison

It is possible to fail in many ways...while to succeed is possible only in one way.

I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
Bill Cosby

Unless a man undertakes more than he possibly can do, he will never do all that he can.
Henry Drummond

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.
Abraham Lincoln

My mother drew a distinction between achievement and success. She said that 'achievement is the knowledge that you have studied and worked hard and done the best that is in you. Success is being praised by others, and that's nice, too, but not as important or satisfying. Always aim for achievement and forget about success.'
Helen Hayes

We never know how far reaching something we may think, say or do today will affect the lives of millions tomorrow.
BJ Palmer

What is True Love

Passion may be blind; but to say that love is, is a libel and a lie. Nothing is more sharp-sighted or sensitive than true love, in discerning, as by an instinct, the feelings of another.
W. H. Davis
Absence in love is like water upon fie; a little quickens, but much extinguishes it.
Hannah Moore
The motto of chivalry is also the motto of wisdom; to serve all, but love only one.
Honor de Balzac, famous French author

God wants us to laugh

I have always believed that God never gives a cross to bear larger than we can carry. ... No matter what, God wants us to be happy. He doesn't want us to be sad. Birds sing after a storm. Why shouldn't we?
Rose Kennedy (1890-1995)

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Jesus Christ's Sacrifice

A man who was completely innocent, offered himself as a sacrifice for the good of others, including his enemies, and became the ransom of the world. It was a perfect act.
Mahatma Gandhi on Jesus Christ

power of a kiss

A kiss can beautify souls hearts and thoughts.
Author Unknown

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Inspirational words of faith

Whether its singing you love or sports or writing, you've just got to have faith and belive you can do it...

Britney Spears, American Singer

Inspirational quotes from Ralph Waldo Emerson

To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all...that is genius...

A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the luster of the firmament of bards and sages.

Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Have Belief in Yourself Quotations

Believe in yourself and you'll succeed. Learn how to do it from these success quotes about self belief.

Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard, and there is nothing you cannot accomplish.
Brad Henry

The only force that can overcome an idea and a faith is another and better idea and faith, positively and fearlessly upheld.
Dorothy Thompson

You can be anything you want to be, if you only believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.
Napoleon Hill

Frequently remind yourself that God is with you, that He will never fail you, that you can count upon him. Say these words,"God is with me, helping me".
Norman Vincent Peale

We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.
Mariam Wright

No matter how steep the mountain - the Lord is going to climb it with you.Helen Steiner Rice
Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.
Cynthia Kersey

Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see.
William Newton Clark

You must have absolute faith in your own perceptions of truth. Never act in haste or hurry; be deliberated in everything; wait until you know the true way.
Wallace D Wattles

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.
Martin Luther King Junior

If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.
Bruce Lee, martial arts exponent and actor

One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.
Lucille Ball

There is no limit to the power of the human mind. The more concentrated it is, the more power is brought to bear on one point; that is the secret.
Swami Vivekananda

Good to Motivate You

When something “bad” happens, say to yourself, “That’s good!”
Adam Khan,

the first kiss

Away with your fictions of flimsy romance,
Those tissues of falsehood which Folly has wove; Give me the mild beam of the soul-breathing glance,
Or the rapture which dwells on the first kiss of love.
Ye rhymers, whose bosoms with fantasy glow,
Whose pastoral passions are made for the grove; From what blest inspiration your sonnets would flow,
Could you ever have tasted the first kiss of love.
If Apollo should e'er his assistance refuse,
Or the Nine be dispos'd from your service to rove, Invoke them no more, bid adieu to the Muse,
And try the effect, of the first kiss of love.
I hate you, ye cold compositions of art,
Though prudes may condemn me, and bigots reprove; I court the effusions that spring from the heart,
Which throbs, with delight, to the first kiss of love.
Your shepherds, your flocks, those fantastical themes,
Perhaps may amuse, yet they never can move: Arcadia displays but a region of dreams;
What are visions like these, to the first kiss of love?
Oh! cease to affirm that man, since his birth,
From Adam, till now, has with wretchedness strove; Some portion of Paradise still is on earth,
And Eden revives, in the first kiss of love.
When age chills the blood, when our pleasures are past—
For years fleet away with the wings of the dove— The dearest remembrance will still be the last,
Our sweetest memorial, the first kiss of love.
Lord Byron, poet

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Is your Child Lying or Stealing? Learn to Deal with It

Let’s get it straight right away. All children lie or steal at some point of time. Only the frequency may vary. Parents needn’t worry if the child lies, but must take care to explain that one must always speak the truth. And by doing that the child’s parents can find a solution to the actual problem.

Every child must be taught that to lie isn’t accepted behaviour. And if one wants to be loved and cared for, one must always speak the truth. Rigid rules and over expectant parents are often the cause for persistent lying in children. It’s very difficult indeed for a child to confirm to every rule. So whenever he flouts a rule, he resorts to lying fearing a reprimand by the disciplinarian father. So it undoes what a parent actually wants of the child.

Its wise for parents not to confront the child, “Don’t lie. Tell me why did you lie….. will you lie again”. That’s a typical reaction of an overanxious parent. Do not instill guilt in the child over small matters. His character hasn’t been damaged because he lied once or twice. And the same time don’t let the child feel it isn’t wrong. Encourage him to express his actual problem. And in earnest see the solution. Just make him feel it’d be a lot better if he didn’t repeat that.

Some parents may laugh over an incident where the child lies. That could be a tragedy. Do not send wrong signals. Above all, you don’t lie to each other or to the child over anything. Speak the truth. Remember, the truth frees us all.

Just another common behaviour problem associated with slightly grown up children, say about seven years onwards. As children begin to grow up, letting go of the hem of the mother’s dress, they learn to be individuals with thoughts of their own. And things of their own. Picking up signals from those around, children begin to identify things as their own and somebody else’s. They develop a deep attachment for certain toys and definitely pride too.

It all starts with toys. Toys draw the admiration of friends and give endless joy. And hence, the occasional ‘stealing’ of a neighbor’s toy shouldn’t shock the parents. If ever they discover this they could politely hand it over. Cool your nerves. Don’t reprimand or spank the child. This is a normal thing that happens universally.

Let not the child feel he’s done a grave crime or broken one of your Ten Commandments. Be tactful in explaining that the toy belongs to the other child. And that he can play with it when they are together, but shouldn’t bring it home. Moreover, tell the child he too has a lot of toys and he could share it with friends. Although sharing isn’t a habit acquired easily. Slowly but persistently (and certainly not forcefully) the joy of sharing can be put across. But never ask a child to share something he isn’t letting go easily.

A child must first of all enjoy possession of his toys, before hi is willing to share. And as parents you must understand this.

In older children, stealing (let’s say of toys) may be creep in as a result of deprivation of the same at home. Or because that toy card, game , pen or ball is the cynosure of all kids in the neighborhood. The resulting envy may force the child to ‘steal’ the toy, at other times, older children do a ‘heroic act’ stealing chocolates or smaller items from shops,. This is more of a ‘gang act’ as several children go to the shop to buy and one of them ‘does the act’.

Don’t bring the roof down if your son is caught red-handed. You may have to call upon all your patience to handle this. Embarrassing problem. Gently tell the child that he could have always asked you if he needed that. And you cold have bought it. Put it across that its not accepted behaviour to do this. Tell the child you’ll be very happy if he didn’t repeat the mistake.

Chronic lying or cheating, however needs to be treated seriously. Probe deeply into causes and fix the problems at the start. Usually deep-seated anxieties could result in this, say child psychologists.

Points to ponder
Your child will learn a lot from your behaviour, choose how you want him to grow up.
Improving your personality has a bearing on the child
Set an example and the child will follow suit
Write down clearly how you’d want your son to be
At home
At work
At social life
Points to ponder
Character and values are vital to happiness in life
Attitude is key to success
Relationships are critical
Behaviour problems

Never forget that
a. Its unwise to confront the child with a behaviour problem.
b. First, confirm that he has made a mistake.
c. You must first follow the rules.
d. Threatening or spanking should be the last resort.
e. Rewarding good behaviour ensures repetition of the same.
f. Children love to please their parents
g. Love, care and understanding alone can help your child.
h. Degrading your son in front of other children will only worsen your problem.
i. Complaining to others will affect his self-esteem.

Monday, December 22, 2008

love in short

When you really want love you will find it waiting for you.
Oscar Wilde, author

If I could be anyone in the world, I would be love with you.
Author unknown

Awakening - Buddha Quote

One of his students asked Buddha,
"Are you the messiah?"" No", answered Buddha.
"Then are you a healer?" "No", Buddha replied.
" Then are you a teacher?" the student persisted. "No, I am not a teacher."
"Then what are you?" asked the student, exasperated. "I am awake", Buddha replied.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Effective Communication in the Workplace

It's critical to communicate effectively at workplace. Just follow these tips to success.
I could say communication is key, but you still have to know when to shut up.
I might mention that you have to give to receive, but you also have to make sure to take time for yourself.
There is always looking at your SO as your best friend, but realizing you have other friends in the world.
You have to be flexible and open, but stand your ground.
You have to be in love with your SO, but realize that doesn't mean you will like them all the time.
You will need to lead by example and follow directions.
Always work hard at making things work in the relationship, and also be able to accept things running their course.
You can be angry or upset, but you have to understand why you really shouldn't be
You need to be read to make war in the morning, peace in the afternoon, love at night, and breakfast the next day.
Be able to balance the opposite, even when there is no equality to the balance.


Saturday, December 20, 2008

Never Give Up Quotes II

Never give up. Almost nothing works the first time it's attempted. Just because what you're doing does not seem to be working, doesn't mean it won't work. It just means that it might not work the way you're doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn't have an opportunity.
Bob Parsons, founder GoDaddy

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Alva Edison

No matter how hard you work for success, if your thought is saturated with the fear of failure, it will kill your efforts, neutralize your endeavors and make success impossible.

Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown.
H.Ross Perot

Flops are a part of life's menu
and I've never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses.
Rosalind Russell

Never give in, never give in, never; never; never; never - in nothing, great or small, large or petty - never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense
Winston Churchill

Our achievements speak for themselves. What we have to keep track of are our failures, discouragements, and doubts. We tend to forget the past difficulties, the many false starts, and the painful groping. We see our past achievements as the end result of a clean forward thrust, and our present difficulties as signs of decline and decay.
Eric Hoffer

Perseverance is a great element of success. If you knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Life is not easy for any of us. We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
Marie Curie

Between you and every goal that you wish to achieve, there is a series of obstacles, and the bigger the goal, the bigger the obstacles. Your decision to be, have and do something out of the ordinary entails facing difficulties and challenges that are out of the ordinary as well. Sometimes your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay with it longer than anyone else.
Brian Tracy


Thursday, December 18, 2008

Blog Moved to Main Blog

This blog is being moved post by post to my other main blog
  • Inspirational Quotes
  • Short Never Give Up Quotes

    Short quotes on not giving up, good enough to lift your spirits early in the morning.

    Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
    Harriet Beecher Stowe

    Never, never, never give up.
    Winston Churchill

    Only those who dare to fail greatly can achieve greatly.
    Robert F. Kennedy

    Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.
    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.

    You just can't beat the person who never gives up.
    Babe Ruth

    When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.

    Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
    Samuel Beckett

    It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer.
    Albert Einstein

    Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win.
    Bernadette Devlin

    More Motovational Quotes on not giving up
    Never Give Up Quotes

    Never Give Up Quotes II

    Never Give Up Quotes III


    Tuesday, December 16, 2008

    How Teachers should Partner with Parents?

    Research points out that students succeed academically, socially, at sports and work better if their parents were actively involved in the child’s progress at school. While most parents feel unwelcome at schools, they are also partly to blame. Let’s remember that the child is at home for nearly 16 hours a day and parents could make a big impact on the child’s environment. The involvement of parents is likely to have a larger impact on studies than family income or lifestyle.

    What should teachers do?
    1. Make contact with parents
    The more teachers get to know parents, the better their suggestion for the student’s improvement.

    2. Be positive
    Whenever parents get a call they are reluctant to come to school thinking its going to be another complaint session. Turn this around and say good things about children. Then parents will be willing to hear the wrong side of their children too.

    3. Give them the chance to speak
    Hear their opinions, fears, concerns and you’ll learn a lot about the child’s family environment.

    4. Organize regular meetings
    This ensures that parents are kept informed about the child’s activities.

    5. Send notes as often as possible
    Whether it’s the child’s activities, tests, projects, scores, meetings, forthcoming events, keep them posted.

    6. Give parenting tips
    Parents these days are under tremendous pressure to bring up children in a competitive world and they’ll need plenty of parenting guidance. This can be done in the form of informal discussions, seminar or newsletters.

    7. Equip parents to handle studies.
    Helping the parents know what skills are required to support studies at home makes for improved grades.

    8. Create a resource centre
    Ask parents to come over and share resources such as skills for better parenting, CDs, Cassettes, library, seminars, Parent Teacher Association meetings, expert talks on family values etc.

    Sunday, December 14, 2008

    Xmas Poems

    Famous christmas poems, xmas sayings and christian poems to share with family and friends this season.
    At Christmas I no more desire a rose
    Than wish a snow in
    May's newfangled mirth;
    But life of each thing that in season grows.
    William Shakespeare, Love's Labour's Lost

    The means to gain happiness
    is to throw out from oneself,
    like a spider,
    in all directions
    an adhesive web of love,
    and to catch in it
    all that comes.
    Leo Tolstoy

    Thursday, December 11, 2008

    Handy Guide to Manage Poor Eating Habits in Kids

    Patience and tact besides understanding poor eating habits is the only way out to manage kids who don’t eat well. Here’s a handy guide to managing them.

    Parents are generally at their wit’s end in dealing with a poor eater at home. But child care specialists point out that there is nothing to worry. Every child has an in-born mechanism that knows how much food the child needs. Children with feeding problems do not suffer from malnutrition, although this sounds contrary to logic. So how do you deal with a child who makes you stand on your head for eating a morsel of food.

    Eating should be fun
    Mealtime should be filled with pleasure, not pressure. When the family sits down for dinner, take utmost care not to urge children to eat more. Stay relaxed although your parental instincts may cause worry about the thin girl sitting next to you. The child tends to build up resistance to eating, when constantly urged by concerned parents. Relax and let the child have what he wants. Don’t bother if he eats more vegetables and less of rice, as long as she is eating something.

    Give what he wants
    Every kid has his favorites, and your child certainly likes some dishes more than others. Try giving him what he loves, preferably wholesome food. But, do not go overboard in taking too much pain to prepare the eats. Always serve less than his appetite to ensure that, like Oliver Twist, he asks for more. Stuffing too much onto his paste develops a bad taste towards food. Even if you want him to eat a little more just ask, “would you like to have a second helping of this”, in a matter of fact way. Not with too much concern, which children are quick to spot and exploit.

    Should the child be left alone to eat?
    You must be careful not to make any sudden changes in the eating habits. If it is the family practice to watch TV or play music at dinner so it must be. If everyone eats together it must continue, unless you can’t stand the sight of him eating just two teaspoonful of rice. Even then leaving the table should be done tactfully, so he doesn’t think that there is loss of parental love. Just leave him to eat as much as possible. Remember, if he is hungry he’ll seek food. It may actually take days or weeks for the rights appetite to surface, but you must be patient then.

    Feeding the child
    Upto the age of 12 months, it is ok. But between 12-18 months attempts, must be made to help the child eat on his own. Make him feel it’s a privilege for a grown up child. Now and then the child may refuse to eat, forcing you to feed him. But do not give in easily. Try telling him, “I don’t think you’re hungry, why don’t you eat a little later”. Again, reiterate. You will need to sum all the reserve of patience deep inside you. Praise him a little for being on his own.

    Once you begin to worry and relapse into feeding him, you will find it doubly difficult to make him eat on his own. A word of caution. A child’s obstinance generally outlasts the parent’s. You‘ll be pushed to the verge of tears often.

    No meal deals
    “Son, you won’t get your apple until you’ve finished cleaning your plate”, is a classic warning to children. But, it actually builds more disgust for eating than ever before. Threatening may temporarily work, but fails miserably in the long run.

    “One mouthful for your sister, one for your grandma and one for your friend,” is another pitiable technique of over-concerned parents. Unless the child’s natural appetite is awakened, this will not bring the desired result. The child may eat a little more but it builds up resistance against food. And it is certainly not worth the trouble.

    “You are my darling child, eat just a little more…. Just this much”, is another wrong strategy. The moment you turn meek, the child understands your weakness. Amazingly such children will refuse to eat and you will be breaking your head against the wall.

    I’ll take you to Sam’s house, if you finish your plate or I’ll buy you chococates when you’re through”, is found to fail, for you’ll soon find yourself buying everything on earth just to make her eat. In the bargain you’d be doing just the opposite of what you wanted to achieve. Since he’ll never begin to eat well and his natural appetite will be killed.

    Tuesday, December 9, 2008

    Christmas Quotes, Inspirational Xmas Songs, Merry Christmas Greetings

    Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.
    Norman Vincent Peale
    Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.
    Dale Evans
    One of the nice things about Christmas is that you can make people forget the past with a present
    What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.
    Agnes M. Pharo
    It is Christmas in the heart that puts Christmas in the air.
    W. T. Ellis
    Christmas is a time when you get homesick - even when you're home.
    Carol Nelso
    The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.
    Burton Hillis
    Christmas--that magic blanket that wraps itself about us, that something so intangible that it is like a fragrance. It may weave a spell of nostalgia. Christmas may be a day of feasting, or of prayer, but always it will be a day of remembrance--a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved.
    Augusta E. Rundel
    Let's dance and sing and make good cheer, For Christmas comes but once a year.
    Sir George Alexander Macfarren
    Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exists, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy.
    Charles Diana
    Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.
    Hamilton Wright Mabie (1845-1916), American author
    Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves.
    Eric Sevareid (1912-1992), American newscaster
    I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.
    Charles Dickens
    Christmas! 'Tis the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial fire of charity in the heart.
    Washington Irwing
    Christmas is a day of meaning and traditions, a special day spent in the warm circle of family and friends."
    Margaret Thatcher, former british PM
    Christmas Eve was a night of song that wrapped itself about you like a shawl. But it warmed more than your body. It warmed your heart...filled it, too, with melody that would last forever." Bess Streeter Aldrich (1881-1954), American author, in the Song of Years
    At Christmas, all roads lead home.
    Marjorie Holmes, American writer
    Happy, happy Christmas, that can win us back to the delusions of our childhood days, recall to the old man the pleasures of his youth, and transport the traveler back to his own fireside and quiet home!
    Charles Dickens
    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben, Author, Hundred Dollar Holiday: The Case For a More Joyful Christmas
    Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.
    Oren Arnold
    From Home to home, and heart to heart, from one place to another. The warmth and joy of Christmas, brings us closer to each other.
    Emily Matthews
    I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month. Harlan Miller
    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben
    This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone.
    Taylor Caldwell (1900-1985), English novelist.
    There's more, much more, to Christmas Than candlelight and cheer; It's the spirit of sweet friendship That brightens all year. It's thoughtfulness and kindness, It's hope reborn again, For peace, for understanding, And for goodwill to men!
    Never worry about the size of your Christmas tree. In the eyes of children, they are all 30 feet tall.
    Larry Wilde
    Christmas is the one time of year when people of all religions come together to worship Jesus Christ.
    Bart Simpson
    I am not alone at all, I thought. I was never alone at all. And that, of course, is the message of Christmas. We are never alone. Not when the night is darkest, the wind coldest, the world seemingly most indifferent. For this is still the time God chooses.
    Taylor Caldwell
    Let us keep Christmas beautiful Without a thought of greed, That it might live forevermore To fill our every need, That it shall not be just a day, But last a lifetime through, The miracle of Christmastime That brings God close to you
    Ann Schultz
    Christmas! The very word brings joy to our hearts. No matter how we may dread the rush, the long Christmas lists for gifts and cards to be bought and given--when Christmas Day comes there is still the same warm feeling we had as children, the same warmth that enfolds our hearts and our homes.
    Joan Winmill Brown, American author and editor.
    I heard the bells on Christmas Day; their old familiar carols play, and wild and sweet the word repeat of peace on earth, good-will to men!
    Henry Longfellow
    Let us remember that the Christmas heart is a giving heart, a wide open heart that thinks of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus stands as the most significant event in all history, because it has meant the pouring into a sick world of the healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of hearts for almost two thousand years... Underneath all the bulging bundles is this beating Christmas heart.
    George Mathhew Adams

    Sunday, December 7, 2008

    Joy of Helping Others

    The joy of brightening other lives, bearing each others' burdens, easing other's loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts becomes forus the magic of Christmas.
    W. C. Jones

    Learning from Heartbreaks

    Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want.
    Martha Beck

    Saturday, December 6, 2008

    Short Christmas Poems to Share

    Short Xmas Poetry for sharing joys during Christmas Festival.

    I heard the bells on Christmas Day
    Their old, familiar carols play,
    And wild and sweet
    The words repeat
    Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
    Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

    A Christmas candle is a lovely thing;
    It makes no noise at all,
    But softly gives itself away;
    While quite unselfish,
    it grows small.
    Eva K Logue

    What Do We Love About Christmas?
    What do we love about Christmas;
    Does our delight reside in things?
    Or are the feelings in our hearts
    The real gift that Christmas brings.

    It's seeing those we love,
    And sending Christmas cards, too,
    Appreciating people who bring us joy
    Special people just like you.
    Joanna Fuchs

    Peace on earth will come to stay,
    When we live Christmas every day
    Helen Steiner Rice

    Your friendship is a glowing ember
    Through the year; and each December
    From its warm and living spark
    We kindle flame against the dark
    And with its shining radiance light
    Our tree of faith on Christmas night.
    Thelma J. Lund

    I'm dreaming of a white Christmas,
    Just like the ones I used to know,
    Where the tree tops glisten
    And children listen
    To hear sleigh bells in the snow.
    Irving Berlin

    Christmas Fun
    The tempting gifts are tantalizing;
    About opening them, we are fantasizing.
    The holiday foods are appetizing;
    Our excitement and joy are growing and rising;
    Our hearts and minds are harmonizing;
    Jolly Christmas fun we're maximizing!
    Joanna Fuchs

    Christmas gift suggestions:
    To your enemy, forgiveness.
    To an opponent, tolerance.
    To a friend, your heart.
    To a customer, service.
    To all, charity.
    To every child, a good example.
    To yourself, respect.
    Oren Arnold

    A song was heard at Christmas
    To wake the midnight sky:
    A saviour's birth, and peace on earth,
    And praise to God on high.
    The angels sang at Christmas
    With all the hosts above,
    And still we sing the newborn King
    His glory and his love.
    Timothy Dudley Smith

    There's More to Christmas...
    There's more, much more to Christmas
    Than candle-light and cheer;
    It's the spirit of sweet friendship
    That brightens all the year;
    It's thoughtfulness and kindness,
    It's hope reborn again,
    For peace, for understanding
    And for goodwill to men!

    From home to home,
    and heart to heart,
    from one place to another.
    The warmth and joy of Christmas,
    brings us closer to each other.
    Emily Matthews

    Christmas is forever, not for just one day,
    for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away
    like bells and lights and tinsel,
    in some box upon a shelf.
    The good you do for others
    is good you do yourself.
    Norman W. Brooks

    Thursday, December 4, 2008

    Inspirational Christmas Quotes

    Xmas is indeed inspiring. Get yourself energised with these lovely quotations.

    If I could wish a wish for you, it would be for peace and happiness not only now, but for the whole year through!
    Catherine Pulsifer

    Christmas Eve was a night of song that wrapped itself about you like a shawl. But it warmed more than your body. It warmed your heart...filled it, too, with melody that would last forever.
    Bess Streeter Aldrich (Song of Years)

    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    Bill McKibben

    He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree.
    Roy L. Smith

    Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.
    Ruth Carter Stapleton

    Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone.
    Charles Schulz

    Were it not for the shepherds, there would have been no reception. And were it not for a group of stargazers, there would have been no gifts.
    Max Lucado

    Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves.
    Eric Sevareid

    Christmas is a bridge. We need bridges as the river of time flows past. Today's Christmas should mean creating happy hours for tomorrow and reliving those of yesterday.
    Gladys Tabor

    Best of all, Christmas means a spirit of love, a time when the love of God and the love of our fellow men should prevail over all hatred and bitterness, a time when our thoughts and deeds and the spirit of our lives manifest the presence of God.
    George F. McDougall

    Wednesday, December 3, 2008

    Happy Christmas Poem

    When Christmas bells are swinging above the fields of snow,
    We hear sweet voices ringing from lands of long ago,
    And etched on vacant places
    Are half-forgotten faces
    Of friends we used to cherish, and loves we used to know.
    Christmas Fancies, Poems of Power
    Before the ice is in the pools,
    Before the skaters go,
    Or any cheek at nightfall Is tarnished by the snow,
    Before the fields have finished,
    Before the Christmas tree,
    Wonder upon wonder
    Will arrive to me!
    Emily Dickinson

    Motivation and Success

    All of us have enough resources, called motivation, to scale the Mt Everest, fly solo across the Atlantic, win the Tour De France or become another Bill Gates. It's just that we don't dig deep enough to call up those reserves. Try it and you'll be surprised by what you can achieve.
    Forget about will power. Become a self motivation expert! Listen to what Peter Murphy, personality coach, has to say about motivation.
    Instead write down one small action you have been putting off and answer the following questions and really put some thought into the answers:
    1 What am I missing out on of importance by not doing this? 2 What will I gain most by doing this? 3 Why is it important to me to get this done? 4 How is not doing this inconsistent with who I really am?
    Answer these and motivation will take you through the worst crisis and bring success.

    Patience is Key to Success

    With patience the mulbery leaf becomes a silk gown.

    Positive Christmas Quotations I Xmas Quotations

    Happy Christmas quotes you will love to send family and friends. Be inspired by these positive xmas quotations.

    Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful. ~Norman Vincent Peale

    Are you willing to forget what you have done for other people, and to remember what other people have done for you ... to remember the weakness and loneliness of people who are growing old ... Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest ting in the world ... stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death... Then you can keep Christmas! But you can never keep it alone.
    - Henry van Dyke ("Keeping Christmas" in The Spirit of Christmas)

    There is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions.
    - Bill McKibben

    What do you tell your children about Christmas? What do you understand about Christmas? Is Christmas all about giving and receiving presents? Or is it about Christmas trees and Santa Claus? Here are some beautiful Christmas quotes that express the meaning of Christmas.
    W. T. Ellis

    There's nothing sadder in this world than to awake Christmas morning and not be a child."
    ~ Erma Bombeck (1927-1996), American author and humorist.

    Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.
    - Oren Arnold

    Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest thing in the world - stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death - and that the blessed life which began in Bethlehem nineteen hundred years ago is the image and brightness of the Eternal Love? Then you can keep Christmas.
    - Henry Van Dyke

    Gifts of time and love are surely the basic ingredients of a truly merry Christmas."
    ~ Peg Bracken.

    What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.
    Agnes M Pharo

    Once again we find ourselves enmeshed in the Holiday Season, that very special time of year when we join with our loved ones in sharing centuries-old traditions such as trying to find a parking space at the mall. We traditionally do this in my family by driving around the parking lot until we see a shopper emerge from the mall, then we follow her, in very much the same spirit as the Three Wise Men, who 2,000 years ago followed a star, week after week, until it led them to a parking space.
    Dave Barry

    I have always thought of Christmas time, when it has come round, as a good time; a kind, forgiving, charitable time; the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut-up hearts freely, and to think of people below them as if they really were fellow passengers to the grave, and not another race of creatures bound on other journeys. ~Charles Dickens
    Let us remember that the Christmas heart is a giving heart, a wide–open–heart that thinks of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus stands as the most significant event in all history, because it has meant the pouring into a sick world the healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of hearts for almost two thousand years... Underneath all the bulging bundles is this beating Christmas heart.
    George Matthew Adams in "The Christmas Heart

    "Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.
    Author: Dr. Seuss

    Tuesday, December 2, 2008

    Do not Condemn Others

    Do not condemn the judgment of another because it differs from your own. You may both be wrong.

    love of jesus

    There is but one love of Jesus, as there is but one person in the poor—Jesus. We take vows of chastity to love Christ with undivided love; to be able to love him with undivided love we take a vow of poverty which frees us from all material possessions, and with that freedom we can love him with undivided love, and from this vow of undivided love we surrender ourselves totally to him in the person who takes his place.
    Mother Teresa

    Sharing your joy

    This time of year means being kindto everyone we meet,To share a smile with strangerswe may pass along the street.Betty Black

    Monday, December 1, 2008

    Christmas Poem by Tennyson

    The time draws near the birth of Christ: The moon is hid; the night is still; The Christmas bells from hill to hill Answer each other in the mist.
    Lord Alfred Tennyson

    Overcome Failure Quotes

    A setback is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
    Henry Ford