Wednesday, February 22, 2006

The Psychology of Conditional Love

The whole world seems to be doing this wrong.

As children grow up, we ask them to do certain things. If they do, we shower love on them. If they don't, we scold them. We deny them our love.

The teacher does it. The boss is no different. And the partner is the same too.Rejection. Scorn. Could shoulders. That's what people get when they don't follow the carrot and stick policy.

Do what I say. Do what I like. Any you'll be my best friend. You'll get my Love.But, conditional love works in the short term. Guess we can easily find the answer from our own experiences.

Unconditional love to children, friends, partners and parents. That's the winning strategy. Try it and you won't regret.